"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Personality?

mike88nf

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Which kind of personality is better with girls and people in general?

The "take yourself seriously" or the "dont take yourself seriously" personality? Here's my view on things from what I've seen;

Serious
The people who take themselves seriously are calm and relaxed. They usually have less to say, and are never spontaneous or unpredictable. They still joke around and have a sense of humor, but a much more subdued/quiet humor. They still laugh at jokes and can have a good time, but they never try do stupid sh1t to get others to laugh at them. They have a big ego/pride and take offense when someone laughes at/makes fun of them, sometimes starting fights.

They still have friends and they are respected highly. Everyone wants to listen to what they're saying because they are serious about it.

Crazy/Goofy/Funny
On the other side, the people who dont take themselves seriously are usually loud, always having something to say. They are spontaneous and will say and do stupid stuff without thinking to get others to laugh at/with them. They usually have no ego/pride and dont care when they are being made fun of.

They still have friends, but for the most part it seems as though they are respected less and get picked on more often than others. Sometimes people dont listen to what they have to say because they are just goofing off half the time.


Which personality is better with girls and people in general?

Obviously the serious personality is more of a "jerk" or bad boy" personality and the crazy/goofy personality is more of a "nice guy" or "funny" personality.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonJuanMonk

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This is a useless post. STOP TRYING TO BE SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT. STOP PRETENDING YOU SHOULD EMULATE A CELEBRITY TO FIT THE MOLD YOU WANT. :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:
 

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Yeah, it's not a specific personality... it's being in the right state at the right time. If it's time to be serious, playing is immature. If you're trying to put someone else at ease, being serious isn't the way to do it. If some guy tries to fight you, it's about talking your way out of it. If some lunatic runs up trying to stab you in a dark alley, it's about defending yourself. In essence, it's about being real.
 

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Originally posted by mike88nf
Which kind of personality is better with girls and people in general?

The "take yourself seriously" or the "dont take yourself seriously" personality?
You do know that there are more than two distinct types of personality...right?
 

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Yeah there are several personality types...but out of the two you have, I'm a bit of both. I love joking around and I do all kinds of unpredictable things. But, I'm a very serious person at times.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sorry bout the jackasses that replyed to your thread mike! but hes a little word of advice! someone that can laugh at him/her self is seldom disliked!
 

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i mean look at the guys post count! and stop being jackasses...my gosh!!!! i sure am happy i didnt make threads when i was new! geezzzz
 

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the best advise to give yourself is "fek em if they cant take a joke "
 

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Ok, nmaybe I should have named this thread "taking yourself seriously or not?", that would have gotten the point across better.

I know there are thousands of different personalitys out there, I was just asking to get some opinions on taking yourself seriously or not and how it fits in with girls and people in general

Now anyone got some opinions/advice?
 

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Originally posted by E_ze05
i mean look at the guys post count! and stop being jackasses...my gosh!!!! i sure am happy i didnt make threads when i was new! geezzzz
Watch the name calling, man. And exactly how did "we" reply negatively?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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