"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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honi1

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I've finally decided that a personal trainer is right for me.

Except i have no idea where to start to look for a trainer, I don't belong to any professional gyms and i mostly work out at home.

My questions are:
1)What is the best way to find a personal trainer?
2)What are some good signs/qualities that i should look for in a personal trainer?

Any help would be MUCH appreciated
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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EFFORT

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figure out what your goals are first
 

Entelechy

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I am a personal Trainer, so I can tell you what to look for.
First of all, you want some body with the right credentials: certifications and experience. Do a google search for personal trainers in your area, ask friends who may have trainers, go to some private gyms in your areas and ask about their private trainers. Once you find a few trainers you like, ask them if they wil give you a free session so that you can try them out- most good trainers will do this. In the first session this is what they should do- If they miss any of these things, they may not be a good trainer. They should do a physical readiness analysis to find out the general level of your health and any injuries. They should find out your goals and establish a time frame for you to reach your goals- and a plan of action to reach those goals. They should look for any muscle imbalances and describe how they are going to improve them. During the work out, make sure they are totally focused on you and that they can describe why you are doing a certain exercise. Most personal trainers will want to train with you for months and months because it is good money for them. A superb trainer like myself will be able to get you in the best shape of your life in one month, training three times a week. At that point you will have all the knowledge you need to keep going b yourself and if you want to keep training with me after that, it is purely because you enjoy having a coach and somebody you are accountable to not because you still need a trainer. Those are the basics of what you should look for.
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blinkwatt101

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Credentials......being fit isn't not learned in the class room.

If you'd like a good trainer keep it simple. Find one of your friends who have a physique you want,ask them to teach you or show you how they learned.

You gonna have to get a gym membership to get anywhere.

Good luck!
 
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I've been a personal trainer for almost 8 years.

As a general rule, make sure your trainer has a lot of experience. I made a lot of clients puke my 1st year. Most gyms hire rookie trainers, that's where I made my start. Self-employed trainers or studio trainers are generally much more experienced.

A national certification is a must, a degree is a plus. Remember, experience is the trump card, I learned a lot more in the field than I ever did in the classroom. I would take someone without a degree with 10 years of experience over someone with a master's degree and 0 experience.

Look for someone that matches your personality.

Look for a trainer that has attained good results with his clients. He should have before and after pictures of past and current clients.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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