"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Persistence or next?

Reyaj

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As I've gotten older I've really become less patient with playing the "dating" game or dealing with "shvit tests"

Of course anything that comes too easy you won't appreciate as much as something you have to put some work towards. Even still though, you'll only become resentful if you feel you've been strung along.

For me there needs to be indicators of interest and continuity. I won't necessarily next a girl if she cancels a first date and is legit apologetic, but I damn sure will if she does it again without a counter offer. We only have a limited time on this earth to be chasing the wrong tail...

One particular lesson I'll give this forum credit for is that's its easier to find a new plate than try to resurrect one with subpar interest.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Suave88

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As I've gotten older I've really become less patient with playing the "dating" game or dealing with "shvit tests"

Of course anything that comes too easy you won't appreciate as much as something you have to put some work towards. Even still though, you'll only become resentful if you feel you've been strung along.

For me there needs to be indicators of interest and continuity. I won't necessarily next a girl if she cancels a first date and is legit apologetic, but I damn sure will if she does it again without a counter offer. We only have a limited time on this earth to be chasing the wrong tail...

One particular lesson I'll give this forum credit for is that's its easier to find a new plate than try to resurrect one with subpar interest.
All I can tell you is shyt testers end up with wrong partner. This is my experience.
There is one key to pass shyt tests and it is to be indifferent.
I am one who hates to kiss ass, but women who lost me, regret it.
Also, not all girls who are quick to hook up are the bad ones.
I don't recommend anyone to chase, being female or male.
 
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