"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Perhaps a strange question, but what kind of shoes do you wear?

The_Reaper

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Generally what do you put on your feet. Apparently it's important to women what shoes you wear.

When I say shoes I don't mean specifically shoes - runners, sneakers, whatever.

Currently I wear black shoes a lot with jeans, but I like the casual look of white runners sometimes.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Scought

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Various Timberland shoes that go with jeans, or some nice Nike shoes that go with shorts or jeans, a pair of dress up black shoes that go with slacks and the like.

I also have a pair of Brown and Green Leather Air Force One's that are pretty stylish. And if the girl doesn't like the AF1's that says more about her, than me.
 

TheMaestro87

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Get a cheap pair of dress shoes and wear them with jeans OCCASIONALLY. I do this just enough that people notice I'm dressed a little "snazzy" (their words) but not often enough that they take it for granted. Easy way to get positive attention.
 

Jay Jay

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Shoes for every occasion.

1. Havianas (In oz we call em thongs, I think the rest of the world calls em flip flops)

2. Chuck Taylor Converse All Stars

3. Redback boots

4. Dr Martins

5. Slazenger running shoes

JJ
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Soprano

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im a sneaker collector so i always got the flyest and cleanest footwear to go with what im wearin

nikes, reeboks, timbs, lugz, asics, bapestas

but you can't go wrong with some icy white sneakers
 

i am me

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i got a pretty nice shoe collection. i got a few tips for those who need help here...

1. get a variety of shoes. different colors, different brands, different styles (but stay casual). after a while youll feel good about ur collection and wont hav to think twice about shoes

2. keep em clean...u mite wanna let vans or canvas shoes get a lil dirt on em jus so they dont stand out too much but in general, keep ur kicks in good shape

3. get the kinda shoes that u think look good. i remember i used to always ask people for opinions on wut shoes i should get...but i feel alot more comfortable when i chose my own shoes and created my own style. of course, u mite wanna listen if someone tells u ur shoes are **** ugly but dont buy shoes depending on wut others like
 

Soprano

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dont get too serious with it... if you try to look all sophisticated you'll more than likely end up looking like a wiener
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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samueladams

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if i'm trying to look decent but casual i've got one pair each of black and brown coach loafers (plain..not that penny loafer crap). Got them at the Saks outlet were like $250 new but got them for about 80. They look nice but b/c they're loafers they're not dressy per-se
 

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I've got Oakley Ripcords for my casual shoe. Comfortable, stylish, and I haven't seen anybody else with it on.

For work I have their Oakley Special Force Boots. I get a lot of looks at work with these boots on.
 
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