"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Perhaps a strange question, but what kind of shoes do you wear?

The_Reaper

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Generally what do you put on your feet. Apparently it's important to women what shoes you wear.

When I say shoes I don't mean specifically shoes - runners, sneakers, whatever.

Currently I wear black shoes a lot with jeans, but I like the casual look of white runners sometimes.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Scought

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Various Timberland shoes that go with jeans, or some nice Nike shoes that go with shorts or jeans, a pair of dress up black shoes that go with slacks and the like.

I also have a pair of Brown and Green Leather Air Force One's that are pretty stylish. And if the girl doesn't like the AF1's that says more about her, than me.
 

TheMaestro87

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Get a cheap pair of dress shoes and wear them with jeans OCCASIONALLY. I do this just enough that people notice I'm dressed a little "snazzy" (their words) but not often enough that they take it for granted. Easy way to get positive attention.
 

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Shoes for every occasion.

1. Havianas (In oz we call em thongs, I think the rest of the world calls em flip flops)

2. Chuck Taylor Converse All Stars

3. Redback boots

4. Dr Martins

5. Slazenger running shoes

JJ
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Soprano

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im a sneaker collector so i always got the flyest and cleanest footwear to go with what im wearin

nikes, reeboks, timbs, lugz, asics, bapestas

but you can't go wrong with some icy white sneakers
 

i am me

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i got a pretty nice shoe collection. i got a few tips for those who need help here...

1. get a variety of shoes. different colors, different brands, different styles (but stay casual). after a while youll feel good about ur collection and wont hav to think twice about shoes

2. keep em clean...u mite wanna let vans or canvas shoes get a lil dirt on em jus so they dont stand out too much but in general, keep ur kicks in good shape

3. get the kinda shoes that u think look good. i remember i used to always ask people for opinions on wut shoes i should get...but i feel alot more comfortable when i chose my own shoes and created my own style. of course, u mite wanna listen if someone tells u ur shoes are **** ugly but dont buy shoes depending on wut others like
 

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dont get too serious with it... if you try to look all sophisticated you'll more than likely end up looking like a wiener
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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if i'm trying to look decent but casual i've got one pair each of black and brown coach loafers (plain..not that penny loafer crap). Got them at the Saks outlet were like $250 new but got them for about 80. They look nice but b/c they're loafers they're not dressy per-se
 

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I've got Oakley Ripcords for my casual shoe. Comfortable, stylish, and I haven't seen anybody else with it on.

For work I have their Oakley Special Force Boots. I get a lot of looks at work with these boots on.
 
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