Perfect is boring yes, but the ultimate Don Juan is not necesarilly perfect. In fact, he is flawed in his personality like every other human, but he is top of the game because he can make his weaknesses into strengthes, which alone is never boring.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Originally posted by Austin Allegro
What I'm trying to say is that ultimately you can't MAKE a woman find you attractive by applying 'DJ techniques' unless there is something inherently attractive about you in the first place.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
About to add it in a few.Originally posted by Dj Tiesto
Sir, thy post is golden!
One of those rare posts that subconsciously forces you to get away from the computer, and reflect on your life.
This post should be the prologue to the Dj Bible.
Pook, many thanks for posting.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Where exactly in the post does it say NOT to do any of these things. Anyone who's been here longer than three or four months has read all the information this board has to offer. If everyone were busy following their goals and being a man, then nobody would be on this site asking repetitive questions to constantly reinforce everything they've already been told. You know as well as I do that every new post on this board is only regurgitated information that the annonymous DJ gods of the internet posted four years ago, and any truly new idea is discarded as false or counter intuitive to the "ideal" DJ mindset.Originally posted by NewMan
Again your missing the point.
What happened to BE THE MAN.
BE YOURSELF.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE.
GO AFTER YOUR OWN GOALS.
This is counter intuitive to the way a DJ thinks.
Agree.Originally posted by NewMan
Again your missing the point.
What happened to BE THE MAN.
BE YOURSELF.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE.
GO AFTER YOUR OWN GOALS.
This is counter intuitive to the way a DJ thinks.
It's all fine and dandy not to make women your first goal - and I agree 100 %...
But there's a difference to not making chicks a #1 prioritiy to no giving a fvck about women at all.
The point being, if your approaching a chick you better make sure your sh#t is together.
There's nothing wrong - and that by the way is why most of us are here - to learning and improving your game with women. If we didn't, we'd all still be AFC's.
this is a dangerous post.
Let's look a the Lawyer who got fvcked over by his hot wife (and I wonder if this is even a true story).
This guy is a lawyer. He's more successfull than probably 90% of the people here. He's behind a desk 10 hrs a day - and on top of that keeps himself in tip top shape. YET, by keeping his wife - giving her a awesome lifestyle - how does she repay him? By fvcking him over.
She'd fvck over ANYONE. This is not a slant on the lawyer - this si a slant on his b#tch wife.
Perhaps he should have tightened up his game? It does not matter, he'll dump this b#tch and end up posting on Sosuave. He'll tighten up his game - and he'll end up pulling an even hotter chick - and he'll still be a lawyer - and still be hitting the gym regularly.
It's a very, very, very bad analogy.
Persue your goals guys - and if that means your hitting the gym every day - fvck everyone else who doesn't understand you or what your striving for.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't you think it depends on how you look at it? And I also think that the longer a person's been on this board, the more this advice will make sense.Originally posted by NobleMuscle
This Post can be Dangerous to some.
Please anyone who reads this post, do not walk off thinking Pook said we should not try to be perfect.
Thanks,
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.