Perfect is boring yes, but the ultimate Don Juan is not necesarilly perfect. In fact, he is flawed in his personality like every other human, but he is top of the game because he can make his weaknesses into strengthes, which alone is never boring.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Originally posted by Austin Allegro
What I'm trying to say is that ultimately you can't MAKE a woman find you attractive by applying 'DJ techniques' unless there is something inherently attractive about you in the first place.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
About to add it in a few.Originally posted by Dj Tiesto
Sir, thy post is golden!
One of those rare posts that subconsciously forces you to get away from the computer, and reflect on your life.
This post should be the prologue to the Dj Bible.
Pook, many thanks for posting.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Where exactly in the post does it say NOT to do any of these things. Anyone who's been here longer than three or four months has read all the information this board has to offer. If everyone were busy following their goals and being a man, then nobody would be on this site asking repetitive questions to constantly reinforce everything they've already been told. You know as well as I do that every new post on this board is only regurgitated information that the annonymous DJ gods of the internet posted four years ago, and any truly new idea is discarded as false or counter intuitive to the "ideal" DJ mindset.Originally posted by NewMan
Again your missing the point.
What happened to BE THE MAN.
BE YOURSELF.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE.
GO AFTER YOUR OWN GOALS.
This is counter intuitive to the way a DJ thinks.
Agree.Originally posted by NewMan
Again your missing the point.
What happened to BE THE MAN.
BE YOURSELF.
YOU ARE THE PRIZE.
GO AFTER YOUR OWN GOALS.
This is counter intuitive to the way a DJ thinks.
It's all fine and dandy not to make women your first goal - and I agree 100 %...
But there's a difference to not making chicks a #1 prioritiy to no giving a fvck about women at all.
The point being, if your approaching a chick you better make sure your sh#t is together.
There's nothing wrong - and that by the way is why most of us are here - to learning and improving your game with women. If we didn't, we'd all still be AFC's.
this is a dangerous post.
Let's look a the Lawyer who got fvcked over by his hot wife (and I wonder if this is even a true story).
This guy is a lawyer. He's more successfull than probably 90% of the people here. He's behind a desk 10 hrs a day - and on top of that keeps himself in tip top shape. YET, by keeping his wife - giving her a awesome lifestyle - how does she repay him? By fvcking him over.
She'd fvck over ANYONE. This is not a slant on the lawyer - this si a slant on his b#tch wife.
Perhaps he should have tightened up his game? It does not matter, he'll dump this b#tch and end up posting on Sosuave. He'll tighten up his game - and he'll end up pulling an even hotter chick - and he'll still be a lawyer - and still be hitting the gym regularly.
It's a very, very, very bad analogy.
Persue your goals guys - and if that means your hitting the gym every day - fvck everyone else who doesn't understand you or what your striving for.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Don't you think it depends on how you look at it? And I also think that the longer a person's been on this board, the more this advice will make sense.Originally posted by NobleMuscle
This Post can be Dangerous to some.
Please anyone who reads this post, do not walk off thinking Pook said we should not try to be perfect.
Thanks,
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.