Perfect Chance or Horrible Idea?

[Paid Laid & Made]

Hey Guys.

Here is the deal, one of my friends, yesterday invited me to one of his famous Drinking parties (He goes to University of Michigan) but his back home for winter break. I had to decline due to family needing me at home, but I told him that I would have loved to go. Well today, he told me I should swing by to hang and drink a bit, I asked if I could bring a GF (Amber) and he was like sure, if she is hot.

I really want to invite her because her favorite things to do are Partying and Drinking. But once again she is the EX's Best Friend. Is it a safe idea for me to go this way and if so should I use it as good friend hang out time or try more?

I have almost no experience in starting anything with a girl at drinking parties. As normally I had a GF or just mutual (set in stone) type of GF's, where it never was an option. She keeps bringing up on of my fvck buddies, who she regularly talks with and considers us an item. How can I get rid of that notion?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Stop obsessing over her being your ex's bestfriend or whatever. TAKE HER OUT IF YOU WANT TO...


Inviting her to a drinkingparty as a date, if she says yes you should have an inn with her because girls know what drinking and parties do...

At a party just drink moderately and when the time is right start kissing etc... It should move naturally.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Okay.

I am planning on asking her now. It will be around 9:30 to 10, when the party gets under way. The reason the friend thing comes up, was that she took pity on me after me and the EX split and that's when both of us started hanging out. So I am thinking she wants to be friends, but a kiss at the end of the night, should seal that deal.

Worst case, I get rejected and move on. But if she accepts the drinking party with me, she hopefully can put 1 and 1 together. LOL, plus, I can always use her for social proof while I am there.

How should I introduce her to my friends?

 

[xblitz44x]

Man, I thought we were going to have a Paid thread without mention of his ex. Guess I was wrong. heh.

Ok, well I disagree that inviting her to a drinking party is a date. But that's irrelevant. In fact, I think it's BETTER thats it's not thought of as a date. You won't have that pressure. Have a great time and give her enough attention. Yes, I know it goes against a DJ Rule, but YOU brought her, she's YOUR guest...make sure she is always feeling comfortable and having a good time. Introduce her to your friends as "Hey this is my friend Amber..."

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

LOL, me not mentioning The EX? Impossible. Just kidding, I am moving on to greener pastures. I am focusing on Amber.

I am not going to see it as a date. I will pay attention, so to make sure that she is having a good time. Thanks for your guyses advice. It will hopefully be a comfortable position and I can get a few points in her eyes. Beats going to some movie.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Update.

The party got cancelled. But no problem. I recovered and decided to bring her back to my apartment's pool house and party 1 on 1 with her there. We drank and had a great time. I got hug and she told me that she wants to chill again tonight after work.

She TXT'ed with me till 4 in the morning after our date and checked if we are still chillin tonight again. I hopefully will kiss close and bring this one home.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Let me get this straight.... You had a girl interested inn you, you had her at your pool house ALONE, you were DRINKING and you got only a HUG?

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*Must recover myself*

What are you doing?????? You should atleast have been skinnydipping and kissed some.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Okay, LISTEN.

She got off work. Its my 2 time ... 1 on 1 with her. She is my EX's best friend, meaning you got like girl emotions in the way and she is a virgin. I will get tonight, sometimes you can't rush things. I did not want to scare her. My EX called her to schedule a time in the mall both would meet today, while she was with me. The EX trashed me on the phone during this time. The situation is akward and needs careful handling.

 

[xblitz44x]

Relax Paid, you're doing good man. No rush. Take things as they come. I've fvcked up toooooo many good opportunities by being TOO aggressive and trying to push her along at MY pace. The best thing you can do is show her a good time, help her feel comfortable, SINCERELY have fun and get to know her. When she's ready, you'll feel it. Then step it up. There is no rush to "beat the clock". This isn't race.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Exactly.

I know that. Nothing is in my way. All I need to have is patience. Her IL is high and I am exciting due to several factors. I am the "BAD BOY" right now in her eyes, so the sky is the limit. If tonight I only walk away with a simple kiss, I will have set myself up for a solid foundation.

Look at it this way. I am the "Bad Boy" type who does not take advantage of a girl in a very compromising situation. This gives me choices for a date at my place and several other more intimite settings, like DRIVE-IN movies. Making the girl feel special while safe, is key to getting anywhere. I am not looking for a quick feel of her t1ts or pu$$y.