"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How exactly does oneitus affect those who have it? Obviously it makes them super needy towards the object of their affection but does it otherwise change how they are and how they interact with others?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It effects your mindet yes. As for personality, no. Some extreme cases it may happen though.

"I don't need to talk to any other girl because i have(or 'close' to having)her."

Usually oneitis just makes you a puppy to the person you have oneitis towards.
 

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It's a crush. You're completely reactive to the person's presence and actions. Sure, love and liking someone is great, but there's a distinction.
 
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