People who complain about their looks

[stand]

.. piss me off.

But, I'm not sure if that's the point of this thread or not. Or if there is even a point.

This is about a situation I encountered recently at work. I work at a popular clothing store and we had a gentleman come in aged about 40-45 who clearly had his face burned somehow. Of course, everyone in the place is starring. I walk up to him and ask him if he needs some help - he says he is shopping for his son & could use some help. I start shooting the **** with this guy when I quickly realized he was an awesome guy and even though everyone in the place was starring at him and even maybe a little freaked out by how he looked - it didn't bother him. He starts talking to me about his son, and his family and compliments me on my fashion (no homo, you freaks) and asks me what I would recommend for his teenager son. He asks me what I am studying in school & I tell him I'm majoring in fire science - he goes on to tell me he was a fire fighter & just gave me some little advice on the fire service.

Anyways, I recommend some stuff for his son & then I tell him to come up and I will ring him out. We keep talking and I'm just so impressed with this guy's character even though people were starring at him he just didn't give a ****. I don't know if I could handle that. Here's where I my stomach dropped a ton - I literally felt sick. I rang up his stuff I don't remember how much it was, but he hands me a credit card. And I move my finger from the top of the card and realize it was one of the credit cards where there is a picture on it. It was a picture of him before he had gotten burned. He was a good looking guy before the burns and it just really sunk it to me how terrible that is.

In short, this guy was a fhking bad ass.. and you idiots who complain about how you look need to quit *****ing - it could be a lot worse.

 

[[S]alvatore]

I agree. And people who stare at those who have had burns or were born with a deformity are automatically put into a little box in my head labelled "<unt". I come across at least a hundred people a day minimum, and their looks have no impact whatsoever on how i percieve them. There's good looking people who are polite/<unts, and there are average looking people who are polite/<unts.

 

[iqqi]

Its great that he was able to maintain his great personality after that tragedy. If he was good looking, then it is obvious he didn't buy into the idea that his looks were the most important thing going for him.

As for him being cool with all the people staring, he is probably used to it. He probably has bad days where he flips out on people. You weren't being nicer than normal to him were you? Many people with superficial handicaps hate that kind of treatment as much as they hate people staring.

 

[stand]

Its great that he was able to maintain his great personality after that tragedy. If he was good looking, then it is obvious he didn't buy into the idea that his looks were the most important thing going for him.

As for him being cool with all the people staring, he is probably used to it. He probably has bad days where he flips out on people. You weren't being nicer than normal to him were you? Many people with superficial handicaps hate that kind of treatment as much as they hate people staring.

Nah - I acted the same as I would with anyone else. I'm really outgoing/happy go lucky type.. I was actually kind of caught off guard with how outgoing this guy was though.. We have similar personalities I would say.

I was cracking jokes w/ him and sh*t .. had him laughing for a while..

It made me feel a little better about myself knowing that I may have brightened this guy's day a little though.

 

[ketostix]

Sure people have it worse and people also have it better. As interesting as this story was, how does everyone freaked out staring at the guy like he's a weirdo, and the assumed fact that his burns were probably recent from the fact he has a credit card without burns on it (they haven't been doing this long, but maybe you can give thmem an old pic I'm not sure but we was an adult before the burns), and the fact he had a son likely before he was burned, condemn some guys on here who complain were unattractive since puberty and didn't have success with women? This is no refutation of "looks matter".

 

[mahon83050]

There are two types of unattractive people in this world.

A.) Those whose faces were mauled in accidents, burns or they were born with one of the rare congenital syndromes such as (Downs syndrome, Crouzons's Syndrome, Treachers Collins syndrome, etc.)

These people (despite surgical options) WILL never look normal or physically attractive and people are wrong and stupid for treating them poorly or staring at them.

B.) Then there are unattractive people who are ugly because they are obese or their genetics gave them a double chin, ugly nose, crooked teeth, misaligned jaws, those who look bad with male pattern baldness.


Although alot of these problems are not the persons fault either, they are easily correctable and affordable through surgery and friendly financial options (credit card, payment plans)

I am a 100% supporter of orthodontic treatment and cosmetic surgery procedures. They are life changing and affect one's life for the better in so many ways.

For those that are less than average looking and are comfortable with themselves, I commend them and god bless them.

If it were not for 5.5 years of braces and headgear to correct my crooked teeth and severe bite, my quality of life would be alot lower today than it is now and I would be considered "goofy" looking to alot of people.

I would do it over in a heart beat.