She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You live in the US right? So, things are different there han they are here... I'm not racist, I have black friends, male and female, and I never let a person's color influence anything on my opinion regarding them.Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Generally eh?? Interesting, no sterotyping here. Im black...im gonna shoot you cause you called me a name and WE generally hang out with thieves. Im not trying to be a b*tch but this is rediculous. Lets make more sterotypes cause they make the world a better place.![]()
Indeed that is VERy annoying.Originally posted by Centaurion
what i hate is reverse racism.
black people calling calling each other the'n-word', ghetto and calling white people for trailortrash, whitetrash and then ***** when someone says something back.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Nowhere in my post did i say that at all. I know its not just white on black, im not ignorant like that. From what you said, i took offense to thats all. I know theres racism other places besides the US too. Youre making assumptions that i didnt even bring up. I havent had hard times with racism actually, i was just letting you know how i felt about what you said.Originally posted by Brazilian_Blues_Boy
You live in the US right? So, things are different there han they are here... I'm not racist, I have black friends, male and female, and I never let a person's color influence anything on my opinion regarding them.
But, I, white boy, blue eyes and blond hair, do suffer from racism.
Yeah, sounds hillarious right? Whenever I have to take a f*cking bus people look down on me, I have to wear rags around my home, because my friends who dress well get robbed before they get to the bus stop. It's reality today man. If I'm with a cute girl hanging around, I have to avoid places where thugs in general go, because, they'd beat me up and rape the girl, because, guess what, they f*ck hate white chicken playboys.
It's not paranoia, it's reality. If I try to play cool and be friends with everyone, I'll end up getting shot. Sorry man, the world isn't just the bubble called USA you live in... I know you might have had hard times with racism in your life, but don't think racism is only white descriminating black. It works the other way too, and is just as bad.
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You my friend are an idiot. Where does it say anything about that in any of these post?? But i understand what you mean and it pisses me off too. So dont think every black person is like that...then you would be sterotyping...and we dont need any of that now do we.what i hate is reverse racism.
black people calling calling each other the'n-word', ghetto and calling white people for trailortrash, whitetrash and then ***** when someone says something back.
Hilarious. Nothin' like racist jokes....Originally posted by splinterkb
I got a good one. So one day a chinese guy walks into a bar. He yells "Hey, what up nigga" to the bartender. The bartender, being black, goes "Hey man, I take offense to that." The chinese guy says he doesnt understand so the bartender says, OK, pretend youre me, and I'll walk in, and see how you like it. So the bartender walks in and says "hey what up chink" to the man, and the chinese guy says "Sorry, we don't serve n***** here."
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
dittoOriginally posted by Brazilian_Blues_Boy
My sincere apologies for everyone concerning my opinions in this post.
My daily problems shall remain only to me... thank you !