People that got their Ex Back - How Did You Do It?

[spax]

Hello,

There's lots of break up guides floating around and "how to get your ex back" strategies including going NC, but we often never hear what actually happens in the end with those relationships.

For those who have been able to get their ex back at some point in time….please share with us what you did.

Be sure to include…

How long were you together?

Who initiated the break up?

Why did you break up?

How long were you apart for?

Did you go NC? If so, for how long?

What strategies did you use to "Get them back"?

How long did it last?

 

[expos]

Never advisable to try to resurrect something that died. It's best to move on and find better women - because they are out there.

But since you asked...I've gotten two exes back, because THEY wanted to comeback. Both situations were similar in their execution.

1. I BROKE it off and told them I was fed up.
2. You need to leave in the smoothest, most unaffected way possible. You need to be cool about it and indifferent.
3. I became a different person. New job, new location, dated a bit, got a few new hobbies. I didn't think about either one of them.
3. No Contact...nearly 6-7 months had passed before THEY reached out.
4. I made the decision to form the relationship again.

You have no chance of getting them back if...

1. You beg for them to come back or break no contact frequently
2. You acted like an a$$hole or conversely, very weak around the time you broke up.
3. You don't do anything to prove you are a person of value or that you haven't improved yourself in some way.

Finally, you shouldn't want to get back with someone who was abusive, crazy, or cheated on you. If your ex had any of these wonderful attributes, stay away from her.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Getting EX back is like using used condom.

Spell is broken, trust is broken, it will never be the same. It's so much better to form new relationship from ground up than recycle old trash.The only reason you want ex back is your weakness, if you were strong enough you could attract same level or better girls. Don't be ***** beggar.

It's hard, but if somebody dumped you like trash, don't expect them to treat you like diamond.

Also how you want to live with the fact - in the meantime - she sucked some other **** ? And what you will be kissing her like nothing happened ?

 

[stevo]

Why would you want your ex back?

If you already wiped with a toilet paper why use the same sheet to wipe again, is that the only sheet on the roll?

Careful what's fueling this curiosity, seem like AFC to me.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

You forgot to include the more important question: was it worth it? In my case, yes, but only because I will not forget the misery and anxiety and emotional hell that followed from getting her back for a VERY LONG TIME to come. I had friend after friend tell me the same message in their own words, but it all boiled down to what we've been telling you here for several weeks now, over and over - MOVE ON. But who knows? Maybe you need to really get burned to get it yourself on a much deeper level like I did. I hope that's not the case for you, I hope you snap out of the trance soon, accept that it's over, and give up all hope of getting her back.

 

[mikey2012]

Forget it. Even if they comeback it will not be the same. Also it will never last. She will dump you again . You are already doing time.... Do it and move on.... Don't go back to prison again.

If you are feeling down watch Swingers.... You will see who you are....

 

[Married Buried]

I don't know why anyone would want to take an ex back after she has been stuffed by other c0cks. How could you not think about that every time you look at her?

 

[EvilSpirit22]

When we completed 7 months of relationship we had a fight and we broke up and I started No Contact. In just 4 days she came back. During the 8th month we broke up again this time it was my mistake and she ended everything.

I even posted my problem on the forum all of them said to not go back to her but I IGNORED what all the members said and I BEGGED her to come back she did came back.

They said that she would do it again and I said you don't know her more than me and blah blah. I REALISED I WAS WRONG AND THE MEMBERS WERE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT and I should have never got back with her. I felt like a ****-less man after that day when we got back together again.

I wasn't happy with her attitude of actually treating me like a slave and I DECIDED THAT IF WE BROKE UP AGAIN I AM NEVER GOING BACK.

We broke up at the 10th month mark and after that I never contacted her ever again. She called me many times but I knew even if we get back together everything would again be sour.

HOW CAN YOU GET YOUR EX BACK?

BEG her Spend money on her buy expensive gifts and give her all the power in the relationship lose your dignity be a ****-less man and just be her slave to witness her ****ing some other guy in the future and telling you that her feelings for you have ended.


I know you are not going to listen to us and would give it another shot because that's what I did when every member advised me to not get back with her.

So just do whatever you want to do and come back when you would not want her and would rather get a new girl.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

I don't know why anyone would want to take an ex back after she has been stuffed by other c0cks. How could you not think about that every time you look at her?

So true ... how can you fall in love in woman again and not have a thought in your head ... "did that other guy(s) face****ed her?" "did she swallow?" "did they ****ed when I cried like a baby?"

Think about that.

If you can do it, then I admire your detachment skills.

The only reason i would get ex back is to take revenge on her but not everybody is a villian better move on.

 

[Married Buried]

So true ... how can you fall in love in woman again and not have a thought in your head ... "did that other guy(s) face****ed her?" "did she swallow?" "did they ****ed when I cried like a baby?"

Think about that.

If you can do it, then I admire your detachment skills.

The only reason i would get ex back is to take revenge on her but not everybody is a villian better move on.

They will say "OH she wasn't with anyone else she was just taking a break from dating"

The truth is she was banging the same day she dumped you. I think it's the ultimate AFC move to take back an ex. It's disgusting. She put another penis in her dirty mouth!

 

[GS750]

If you want a chance at getting her back, you have to move on first. That means NC for several months. Poof! Be gone. Let her hamster do all the work. Even then though, why go back to an ex when you could find someone better or more suitable for you? Like the article I posted below says: Recycled paper is good. Recycled relationship is bad.


http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/

 

[Tortendieb]

I did. She came running to me 1 year later, after I'd had the hottest girl in the dorms. I rejected her.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Not sure if OP wrote this for other guys to LEARN SOMETHING or wrote it for himself. Readers pay attention, poster has a join date of 2007! DUDE this can't be your first break up? Have you not learned anything since you joined SS....

When it's over it over! When I was 21, my first relationship/ltr ended & eventually I f*cked the ex again. I subconsciously knew it was just a scr*w & thats it. It's dead man, even if you dump them never go back. PERIOD

This thread doesn't surprise me, I've a buddy that's wasted years on an ex to this day. It's on for a week/month tops & then everything goes to sh*t. I've lost count on how many times I have said to him, I f*kin told you dude.

 

[zekko]

If you are feeling down watch Swingers.... You will see who you are....

SPOILER ALERT!

The guy who bangs Heather Graham at the end? Wow, what a loser, huh?

But yeah, never go back to an ex. I like the used toilet paper analogy. Never go backwards in life, move forward.

 

[mikey2012]

SPOILER ALERT!

The guy who bangs Heather Graham at the end? Wow, what a loser, huh?

But yeah, never go back to an ex. I like the used toilet paper analogy. Never go backwards in life, move forward.

Yeah that's the dude . Mikey lol. He was pathetic . Like any beta who gets dumped . Watch the movie. Don't be like that guy

 

[Shift]

You don't. You next that bish :crackup:

 

[spax]

Guys, I'm talking about salvaging the situation BEFORE she gets stuffed with other ****s.

 

[Shift]

Guys, I'm talking about salvaging the situation BEFORE she gets stuffed with other ****s.

What do you mean by salvaging the situation? Has there already been a breakup? Or does it seem like one is imminent?

 

[stevo]

Hi guys,
So I got dumped by my GF of 7 years almost 40 days ago. (We had been doing the last 10 months long distance due to work.)

Guys, I'm talking about salvaging the situation BEFORE she gets stuffed with other ****s.

When a girl breaks up with you, one of three is true.

- She genuinely wants her space from everybody, you included, her friends included.

- She has another cork making her juice drip she wants to climb if she hasn't already and you'll be a corkblocker

- She gets disgusted by you so much she'd rather be alone than be with you.

My money is on number 2.

You're broken up for 40days and you think she hasnt fcuked yet? You've been long distance for 10MONTHS and you think she hasnt fcuked yet? Drink some coffee man.

Go to the strip club my friend, be free spread those oaks, she sure as hell is spreading her legs.

 

[El Payaso]

She's an ex for a reason...