People that got their Ex Back - How Did You Do It?

[captain55]

When a girl breaks up with you, one of three is true.

- She genuinely wants her space from everybody, you included, her friends included.

- She has another cork making her juice drip she wants to climb if she hasn't already and you'll be a corkblocker

- She gets disgusted by you so much she'd rather be alone than be with you.

My money is on number 2.

You're broken up for 40days and you think she hasnt fcuked yet? You've been long distance for 10MONTHS and you think she hasnt fcuked yet? Drink some coffee man.

Go to the strip club my friend, be free spread those oaks, she sure as hell is spreading her legs.

Pretty strong generalization. There are a lot of women who go through long dry spells for various reasons. Maybe she can't find an upgrade as quickly as she thought she would. You see this with women with NPD- they may really like a guy but not sleep with him because he's not as tall or as well endowed as their ex. I know my ex was talking to this one guy for a while right after she broke up with me, but asked the guy for a **** picture and refused to sleep with him even though she wanted to because he wasn't as big as me lol.

 

[expos]

Maybe I should add that if you are getting some sex from an ex, that's fine. Just don't get emotionally attached again. All this talk about her having some guys junk inside of her - really? - she probably wasn't pure when you guys first hit it either!

 

[expos]

Pretty strong generalization.

I agree. I'm friends with a girl who went almost a year+ before she found a guy that she was suitable to sleep with. I had tons of conversations with her about relationships and she fed me some really good red pill material as well. You will learn a ton about women once you've actually become friends with one.

 

[captain55]

Maybe I should add that if you are getting some sex from an ex, that's fine. Just don't get emotionally attached again. All this talk about her having some guys junk inside of her - really? - she probably wasn't pure when you guys first hit it either!

At least you know your ex is still sexually attracted to you. Last time I saw my ex (about two months after we broke up) I felt like she wasn't attracted to me at all. The same chick who's panties would be soaked within 5 minutes of kissing her and wanted my babies just four months ago.

Women are such delicate creatures, but once they paint you black it's pretty much game over.

 

[expos]

Women are such delicate creatures, but once they paint you black it's pretty much game over.

So delicate in fact, that you can actually change their perception of you pretty easily. You've got to spark their envy, jealously, and hit their emotions pretty good to spark that attraction again.

I've got plenty of stories on how I was able to get some girls back, or at least regret what they did to me indirectly, but I'll save it.

You definitely need to improve who you are in order for those feelings to change. You need to become someone desirable and someone she will regret dumping.

This is has been played out in movies, tv, and the fairy tales that women so desperately want to believe in. You'll laugh, but think about the plot of Cinderella. She's essentially a low-level yet good individual who mops floors and gets put down a lot by everyone. But once she gets all dolled up and looking good, the Prince wanted her. You know that if she would have shown up to the ball looking like utter garbage, the Prince wouldn't anything to do with her.

The same rules apply to our relationship dynamics. You want what appears to be good.

 

[Naughty Fins]

How long were you together?
8 months.

Who initiated the break up?
I did.

Why did you break up?
Red flags everywhere.

How long were you apart for?
3 months.

Did you go NC? If so, for how long?
Yes, for 3 months.

What strategies did you use to "Get them back"?
I basically forced myself to think that she died because she got hit by a car, and then completely erased her existence. Went out with other girls after a week of depression.

How long did it last?
The NC? 3 months.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

It's over man

 

[Dgwizdal]

Fvck You. Since you won't listen to any pieces of advice here and are wasting everyone's time with these redundant threads - BEG FOR HER BACK ON HER KNEES.

Your situation is not special. You are just the same as every guy here who's been through this trying to save you from making the same mistakes we once did. ITS OVER

 

[Desdinova]

How long were you together?
4 years

Who initiated the break up?
She did

Why did you break up?
I was a pitiful AFC

How long were you apart for?
13 years

Did you go NC? If so, for how long?
9 years

What strategies did you use to "Get them back"?
Not giving a fvck about her, but I flirt with damn near every woman I come into contact with, including her.

How long did it last?
I haven't actually taken her back yet. She keeps trying though.