"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
people that break up with you but
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
BraddH
Master Don Juan
BraddH
Master Don Juan
You said the same thing as I did. Just in different words.
Not really.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
nismo-4
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Open and shut case.
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Ladies are emotional creatures, so they naturally make poor decisions. They check and double check, to make sure.
Don't give them the satifaction of knowing they made the right decision. Their loss!
love with you"
In other words, she no longer finds you attractive AND the leads that she has been working on while stringing you
along are biting and she's ready to get sweaty with them if she's not already.......
......but why would she want to give up that emotional connection with you.........she doesn't want to fvck you but why
give it all up........"lets be friends....."
Stop treating women like your best buddy or your faithful shep.......you'll get too comfortable and so will she.......
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Yeah, she's probably a wh0re anyway, most are. No use in holding on to something worthless.
Ladies that are best buddy material, are rare... don't expect it.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I have no clue of such kind of people, and I know you need to exclude them from your life, because
We saw each other last Sunday. The 2 weeks before, she started texting very often and intimate again, being much more spontaneous too.
I thought, and every well thinking guy, aha, ok, this is a good direction again.
Facing each other.
She: No, I still don't want to retake. I also want to **** around (not in this words, but that was the message)
She, when I left, asked again to stay in my life.
This is a NC forever. I have no clue on people loving you and messing with you. People that actually value the real love they discover for you but don't want the full package. How low can you be. How lost can you be to hop around on ****s ... not feeling lucky and keeping a line with a real love you have.
Strange world. Proved again today too.
SgtSplacker
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They are such a positive force on this earth they do not leave any sadness or strife in their wake.
It solidifies the assumption they are the bigger one in the relationship because of how mature they are.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
They like to be the one where you are pining for them and they keep it just outta reach... The key is that guys are just outta reach for them and the guy allows occasional sex without committing, be that guy.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
She wanna play around with you as a backup.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
