"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
People calling you ugly
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LuckySevens777
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You could get some new clothes, improve posture, smile more, clear up any acne problems, work out more, get a tan, and just relax and be cool about things
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
No, dont do that. And being black doesnt mean its "easy" to get dreads. Just get a fade.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
That isnt goin to make him look better you fag. Thats probably the only hairstyle u know for black people. Shut up and go 2 sleep biattttch!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
Cane rolls? I thought is was corn rows.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
InsidiousNstinct
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First off you mentioned you was over weight? This may be true it all depends on your hight exc. You may not be over weight you may just need to tone up. Maybe you could post your specs?
Clothes- The funny thing I've noticed about clothes is that you can find really good bargains if you look hard enough. You don't have to shop at the most expensive store. Most expensive thing I have in my closet is a couple of American Eagle shirts that a chick bought me. I myself don't shop there. I shop Sears, JC Penny, and of course Wal-Mart. Yeah you heard me, Wal-Mart they do have SOME good clothes that look da*m good. I can't think of how many compliments I've got from people before when I was wearing Wal-Mart clothing. You just have to know what your doing. They also have really good buys on shoes.
You said you was black, I'm mixed or something lol so Im a darkish brown. So I'd say you need to stick to medium and light colors. Dark colors are ok but I believe for blacks lighter colors are the way to go. Colors like, Red, blue, baby blue, light brown, light green, exc.
Always try to find clothes for the season your in but also look for special buys on other seasons. Example: Say your shopping for shorts in summer and you come across a nice sweater thats really cheap, buy it. Always stock up. That's where a lot of people go wrong is just buying for that paticular season and waiting till last minute to buy long sleeves or whatever it is that they need for the next season. If I only had a dollar for everytime I heard someone say in school "I need some summer clothes." Its not good to be wearing "hoodies" in the middile of summer
Pants are very crucial to your wardrobe. Blue Jeans, kaki pants (sp) Cargo Pants, Black Jeans ( I myself not a fan of them)
Always make sure you have a couple of each. Buy a few different colored kaki/ cargo pants.
Shoes- I believe shoes are even more importaint than pants because believe it or not thats the first thing that a lot of people notice. So you need ATLEAST 4 pairs. Tennis shoes, Casal Shoes such as K-swiss or something. Boots, no not cowboy boots unless your into that sorta thing. Dress shoes, these can be loafers, exc. The reason for all the shoes is the different outfits. I myself don't liek to wear tennis shoes with kaki pants, then again thats my preference just using it as an example.
You possibly won't like everything I mentioned because each person has a different style. Just take what you do liek and augment it some.
Also if anyone else could add anything, Im sure I've missed something.
Good Luck in your change...
Smooth as Anything
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What the **** are you talking about? "You may just need to tone up"
InsidiousNstinct
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And to tell ya the truth, I'm a sucky drawer unless you count stick figures.All kiddin aside...say a guy 5'7 weighs 150 pounds, this may be over weight to him but a guy that's 6'3 he would be considered skinny.
I hope this helps?