"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Penkitten Is Smoke -FREE!!!

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the chantix is working and i am smoke free today!!!
however, the side effects are... i am irrational, irritable, panicky, and bat crazy.
my family has been very sweet to me, even though i have not been sweet to them. i don't crave a cigarette, but i don't know what to do with my time. i am jittery and feel so abandoned, i really have no way to describe it. i keep thinking maybe i am hungry, but i am not, so food tastes bad. i am not thirsty either. i guess i must miss the hand to mouth activity that smoking more than half my life brought. i am having a hard time sitting still, so i am going to clean something.

anyone else been in my shoes and have any advice or stories to share?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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penkitten said:
however, the side effects are... i am irrational, irritable, panicky, and bat crazy.
TRANSLATION


I AM A WOMEN !!!




ps congrats and keep it up, has it been a week now?
 

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is chantax a subscribed med? my LTR's boss (remember that thread??) is supposedly getting me chantax for my bday.

i didnt think it was over the counter but if he can get me some, i will gladly accept
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Good work Penny.

I never knew you smoked in the first place.

Its great that you are quitting though.

My buddy whose only like a year younger than me has been smoking since he's 13 and from the outside he looks like a body builder in perfect health as he lifts weights and sucks down protein like a fiend but he can barely get his work done these days because he gets winded too easily now as the ciggies have taken their toll. He has pretty much told me that they have effected his endurance lately.
 

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Kitten, Good for you for quitting. Is it you who wants to quit or are you doing it for your family and friends? If you don't want to quit deep down, you'll crave until cave.

I love cigars amd I ain't quitting . I do take family into consideration and don't smoke my cigars around them and in turn I don't need to worry about thier approval.
 

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DavenJuan said:
is chantax a subscribed med? my LTR's boss (remember that thread??) is supposedly getting me chantax for my bday.

i didnt think it was over the counter but if he can get me some, i will gladly accept
it is a prescribed medicine, and it cost me $112 because my insurance wouldn't pay a cent towards it.
 

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Holy crap that's expensive!

It cost me $20 to quit. I bought Allen Carr's "Easy Way to Stop Smoking" book and it worked well for me. The only really bad day I had was the first day smoke-free.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Kitten, Good for you for quitting. Is it you who wants to quit or are you doing it for your family and friends? If you don't want to quit deep down, you'll crave until cave.

I love cigars amd I ain't quitting . I do take family into consideration and don't smoke my cigars around them and in turn I don't need to worry about thier approval.
first it is my family, my husband doesn't smoke and the kids don't want to be around it, and my daughter has asthma and so does my husband. so i only smoke in my bedroom, which he thinks smells.
then all my coworkers are quitting and they get onto me for smoking in the office. (well it's not like they cuss me and write me up, they just say, you aren't supposed to smoke in this office, and then i say, but no one is in here and they give up...)
then the price of cigarettes just keeps rising, that i really can not afford it. however, whatever i save can be a family vacation or something.

at first i really didn't want to quit, my heart wasn't in it. i have smoked more than half my life, and had no complaints.

but now, after taking this medicine, i am not craving a smoke and when i smoked yesterday, i couldn't taste my cigarette. when i realised that i couldn't taste it, no matter how hard i tried, i just put the thing out and went to bed.

other people are complaining about not sleeping or nightmares, and as far as that goes, does anyone know the hamster king? me either!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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"other people are complaining about not sleeping or nightmares, and as far as that goes, does anyone know the hamster king? me either!"

Ahahahhahaa.

I'd say the hamster king was me but I'm a gerbil man myself.
 

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Buy yourself some mint flavored toothpicks and chew on one every now and then. In a few weeks once your body has rid itself of the nicotine addiction, you'll toss the toothpicks away and it'll be all over.
 

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subscribed.?!!! lol. thanks for not correcting my "proper english"

im not sure how hes getting this "prescribed" medicine for me then. interesting
 

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DavenJuan said:
subscribed.?!!! lol. thanks for not correcting my "proper english"

im not sure how hes getting this "prescribed" medicine for me then. interesting
my boss 's daughter gets a prescription from her dr and gets it filled because her insurance will pay for it, then she gives it to her mother (my boss) because our insurance won't pay for it. perhaps he can do the same thing to help you out?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Good job taking the necessary steps in order to kick the habit.
 

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I smoked for about 16 years (since I was a wee little lad), and managed to quit cold turkey, with no meds last November. Of course I cheated Christmas eve and New Year's eve, and bummed a couple, as I had pretty much blacked out drunk, but that's a whole 'nother story.

Congrats!
 

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I was addicted to smokeless tobacco.

I dipped Skoal's small cut wintergreen for about 25 years or around the time Skoal came on the market and used 2 boxes a day. I started dipping when I was 12 years old it's hard to believe but it was so. After years of use I wore deep pockets in my jaw where I would put the chew. I was so addicted I never spit it out I would swallow it when I was through or ready for another dip. I remember it being like an extra leg or arm. If I didn't have a dip in I was off balance...I wasn't comfortable being me until I got a dip in I was relieved like a heavy thrist after you drink a glass of cold water.

Years of abuse it took it's toll on my stomach and I decided it was time to quit. I bought one last roll of 10 and told myself to go slow and casually wing myself off of this drug.... it is a drug and the tobacco companies knew what they were doing when they put these products out.

After one failed try I kept at it until I was successful on my second attempt it was 1996 and I have been free from this addiction but I still crave a dip whenever I am in the tobacco section of a store... it's still that powerful... just taking a whiff makes be go back in memory of the days I dipped.

The nicotine dose in smokeless tobacco is at least double that of the amount in cigarettes, making smokeless tobacco more addictive than smoking cigarettes.....I can attest that it wasn't easy quiting cold turkey but if I can do it anyone can as I was the worst example of a dipper can be.

Looking back I can see just how sick a man I was but it wasn't me but the nicotine taking control of my system effecting me in everything I did. Before this I had quit drinking alcohol so my system was being renewed and oh how it sucked during the process I was best to be alone away from everybody.

Penkitten, your doing a great thing by quiting. I can relate to everything you are going through....Your setting a good example for your youngin's and having a smoke free environment is more healthy for you and for them and when they are older they will bring their kids to see grandma and grandpa and you'll be able to enjoy life more fulfilled and in better health I wish you well and success my good thoughts are with you girl.

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Congrats Kitten!! I'm happy and proud for you.
 

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I was kind of wondering why I haven't seen you post much lately penkitten. I guess you don't post all that much lately anyway. Yeah quiting smoking is tough. Congrats.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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