I have been dating my girlfriend for eight months now. Just recently she has been having 'doubts' about our relationship. She is a pretty emotionally crazy girl, and it really hasn't been a burden on the relationship, and I have grown to love her as time as gone on. This time though, I think she is really starting to wonder, and it has me concerned. Her main argument is that I am the first guy she has dated for an extended period of time, and that although she knows she loves me and has never felt about any other guy like this, she naturally feels like she needs to take a break with me, and see what else is out there in order to prove that I am the right one for her. I have disagreed with her the whole time, saying that if we love each other and are happy together, why are you so curious to see what else is out there? I have said that I am not going to sit here waiting for her while she sees what else is out there, and then come back to her when she actually realizes I'm the one for her. I just have to convince her. And if she can't see that, then maybe she isn't the one for me. Right?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Penalized For Being Her First Love?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
OneEyedJack
Don Juan
It is girl code for I'm breaking up with you, but I don't want to hurt you (a lot)
She wants out, and there is nothing you can do
She wants out, and there is nothing you can do
KontrollerX
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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471&highlight=breaks
I give you joekerr's thread on breaks.
Read and learn well sosuave soldier.
I give you joekerr's thread on breaks.
Read and learn well sosuave soldier.
MacAvoy
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Excellent post by Joekerr and on the money. Whatever you do, don't try to convince her that she's making a mistake. The only way you can convince her she made a mistake is by agreeing to the break, then get out there and find some new plates to spin.
You've been lurking on this site long enough to have red enough threads to see guys try get back their ex's who fail. The only success guys see is from No Contact and moving on.
You've been lurking on this site long enough to have red enough threads to see guys try get back their ex's who fail. The only success guys see is from No Contact and moving on.
MooseGod
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Eh, she'll be back after she has a couple of kids with different guys.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
CORVETTE06
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let her go
penkitten
Master Don Juan
there comes a time in everyone ones life (not just guys) that every person wants to spin more plates.
they want to make sure the china they end up with goes with the rest of the decor.
they want to make sure the china they end up with goes with the rest of the decor.