"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
dannowillbookem
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DJ_Matthew
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Seriously though, let her pay.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LostAndConfused
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HandyAndy is right. The guy DOES have to pay for the girl, unless your school is free. You don't have to pay for the dress though...thats WBAFC...borderline milk-toast
Prom itself is a very romanticized, idealized, pseudo-"party-date"
Do you know why it becomes a huge popularity contest between females, and (quite pathetically) it is often the highlight of a stupid high school broad's lifetime?
The whole thing is constructed around putting the girl, the prom-date, on a pedestal. The girls put on the best looking dress they will ever wear in their entire life with the exception of them being a model or a wedding dress, they spend literally hours making themselves look great, all to get their male prom date to be a "gentleman."
This sh(i)t would be perfect! ....if we were in the 1600s....Blame feminism.
With that being said, alot of guys are LJBFriended the moment they step into the prom venue. Most guys at my school take girls they are just "friends" with anyways.
Thus the whole idea of "prom" is AFC. When guys ask girls to prom, unless they've been in a relationship beforehand (and this often isn't the case..at least from my experience). You naturally become slotted as an AFC anyways going to prom.
It doesn't mean you can escalate. You can release your inner-DJ and bypass the initial AFC parts of prom. (Thats how a few guys get "lucky" during prom).
Also, this doesn't mean you can't have fun with a girl at prom of course. If possible though, find some way to make her pay for her own way in, even though its against the "etiquette"
splinterkb
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dannowillbookem
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Proms are way to expensive and a waste of time in my opinion. Though I am DJ'ing about ten of them this season.
I hated my prom. My tux was nice though... R.L. Polo
Ended up staying half way through one song then left for the beach...
Our tickets were free though since I helped with the construction
DismantleRepair
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If you just grabbed your nearest, also-single friend, she pays.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.