"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
paying for prom
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
dannowillbookem
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DJ_Matthew
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Seriously though, let her pay.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LostAndConfused
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HandyAndy is right. The guy DOES have to pay for the girl, unless your school is free. You don't have to pay for the dress though...thats WBAFC...borderline milk-toast
Prom itself is a very romanticized, idealized, pseudo-"party-date"
Do you know why it becomes a huge popularity contest between females, and (quite pathetically) it is often the highlight of a stupid high school broad's lifetime?
The whole thing is constructed around putting the girl, the prom-date, on a pedestal. The girls put on the best looking dress they will ever wear in their entire life with the exception of them being a model or a wedding dress, they spend literally hours making themselves look great, all to get their male prom date to be a "gentleman."
This sh(i)t would be perfect! ....if we were in the 1600s....Blame feminism.
With that being said, alot of guys are LJBFriended the moment they step into the prom venue. Most guys at my school take girls they are just "friends" with anyways.
Thus the whole idea of "prom" is AFC. When guys ask girls to prom, unless they've been in a relationship beforehand (and this often isn't the case..at least from my experience). You naturally become slotted as an AFC anyways going to prom.
It doesn't mean you can escalate. You can release your inner-DJ and bypass the initial AFC parts of prom. (Thats how a few guys get "lucky" during prom).
Also, this doesn't mean you can't have fun with a girl at prom of course. If possible though, find some way to make her pay for her own way in, even though its against the "etiquette"
splinterkb
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dannowillbookem
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Proms are way to expensive and a waste of time in my opinion. Though I am DJ'ing about ten of them this season.
I hated my prom. My tux was nice though... R.L. Polo
Ended up staying half way through one song then left for the beach...
Our tickets were free though since I helped with the construction
DismantleRepair
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If you just grabbed your nearest, also-single friend, she pays.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.