Paying for a girl you haven't fvcked yet

[BeTheChange]

So I'm meeting this girl tomorrow night.

My plan was drinks in a nice part of the town followed by a comedy show and maybe more drinks after. Obviously will escalate as far as possible.

First date was just a kiss. We went to bar and then a restaurant. She insisted on paying half the bill.

Anyway I need to pay for these comedy tickets in advance. Cost is a minor issue but I'm not sure if it communicates the wrong message. After all I haven't even doinked this one yet. So what are everyone's thoughts on opinions on the title statement?

 

[MrWood]

if a woman wanted me to go to an opera, I expect her to pay
I dont go to opera, no idea about prices

pay for the comedy tickets
she may or may not offer to pay it back

I would buy them and not mention them at all
She should, given her history with you, inquire and offer to pay it back
"no worries, it was fun... you can buy me a beer/drink/make-me-a-samich... how about that?"

 

[BeTheChange]

if a woman wanted me to go to an opera, I expect her to pay
I dont go to opera, no idea about prices

pay for the comedy tickets
she may or may not offer to pay it back

I would buy them and not mention them at all
She should, given her history with you, inquire and offer to pay it back
"no worries, it was fun... you can buy me a beer/drink/make-me-a-samich... how about that?"

Good advice. You're right. This has been my experience too, with girls paying when they were inviting me to something they had no idea I would like or not.

Was leaning towards that line of thinking. Thanks.

 

[pyros]

I wouldn't go to the comedy show yet, she's not your gf, you haven even fvcked her yet, but up to you.

If you want to go to that show without telling her in advance, you should pay for both, duh.
Anyway, it doesnt matter what you do: you can pay for the tickets, for the tickets and the drinks, or whatever. The important thing here is if she offers to pay half once she realises that you've paid for everything, or if she offers to get you dinner/drinks/whatever on the next date.

This is a good indicator of how nice or spoiled she really is.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Why are you taking a girl you haven't smashed to a comedy show? That's a privilege for a girl that you like that you already smashed. Leave it at drinks and porking.

 

[marmel75]

Why are you taking a girl you haven't smashed to a comedy show? That's a privilege for a girl that you like that you already smashed. Leave it at drinks and porking.

This.

Too much too soon for a new chick.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Do what you'd do if she was a bro

 

[KingBeef]

Keep it simple, remember you are the prize as well....don't psyche yourself out.

Also it can be very useful while your young (if money is an issue) to befriend some male bartenders (originally posted by Poon King) Take a blind/first date to a spot where you know that's cool, don't worry about the tab with little or no investment.

 

[ZTIME]

Can't you just text something like:

Hey, thinking about going to a comedy show Saturday night. I've gotta get tickets now before they're sold out. You in?

If she asks how much tickets are, she's willing to pay.

If not, proceed how you like.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Her wanting to pay half the restaurant bill on the first date communicates that she is not just using you for free entertainment.

You could text her that you can pick up the tickets yourself if she can pay for your drinks at the first place you go. Don't get fixated on making sure everything gets split exactly 50/50 dollar-wise. The important part is her attitude and willingness to contribute. If she says she is broke, then tell her you understand, and just do less expensive stuff.

 

[Serenity]

You pay for tickets because you want to take her with you. You don't pay her tickets just because she fvcked you, if that hypothetically was the case.

Some men wonder how women manipulate men by using sex to get what they want. This is it. If there's a pattern where a woman notices she only gets what she wants because she had sex with the guy, then you can be she'll use such weakness against you.

The flaw in mindset here is that a guy should be damn lucky she wanted to fvck him. It's wrong, it's all wrong. Your mindset should be that she's damn lucky she gets to fvck you, because you don't fvck just anyone.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Her wanting to pay half the restaurant bill on the first date communicates that she is not just using you for free entertainment.

You could text her that you can pick up the tickets yourself if she can pay for your drinks at the first place you go. Don't get fixated on making sure everything gets split exactly 50/50 dollar-wise. The important part is her attitude and willingness to contribute. If she says she is broke, then tell her you understand, and just do less expensive stuff.

They will dangle carrot of sex over you and let you date them and yet you will never get to the sex. Keep the dates somewhat cheap, I mean if the comedy show is $30 a ticket or something low, you can swing dates like this. But it should never be expensive dates or serious gifts unless she had enough respect for you to give you the puzzy.

But yeah, modern women are stretching men out for dozens of dates and he gets nothing but the company of their physical presense. It's why we have to do the things we do.

 

[El Payaso]

A lot of women only ask if they can pay half to be nice. Deep down, they still expect you to pay and will throw an internal tantrum when you let them pay.

If you want to take her to a comedy show, make sure the tickets are free.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I once asked my martial arts trainer, after a big fight event the previous night where he had been walking around with $20,000 in cash in his pockets, if he was worried about being robbed. He was surprised at the question, thought about it for a moment, and said, "No. I guess I figured if someone could take that money from me, then they deserved it." Considering that he can break most people in half, he was right.

It's the same idea with women and money. If a woman can trick you out of your money, then she did you a favor by showing you your weakness. You just paid for a valuable lesson. Imagine you pulled off a con on the world's best con artist; it's the same as beating up the world's best martial artist. They won't be mad. They will be grateful for the lesson and use it to improve their craft. That attitude is how they got to be the best.

 

[Tenacity]

Why are you taking a girl you haven't smashed to a comedy show? That's a privilege for a girl that you like that you already smashed. Leave it at drinks and porking.

I agree with this. Every girl is random. You have absolutely no idea if she will **** or do what I refer to as "suck up the free dates".

For the first date I usually push for my place or hers. If that absolutely won't work, I push for a quick meet at a coffee shop or bar.....but I specify it's just a quick meet and we aren't eating any "meals".

I know there's a section of guys that believe their game can out do anything, but it's bull****. Some girls will suck up all your free meals and dates, and won't even sniff ya ****.

Because sexual companionship is all you have left, if she's not putting out then it's a waste of time.

 

[SuckItUp]

"A fool and his money are soon parted."

No reason to put money into a girl because that money as insignificant as it may seem is the start towards a car, house, school, investment so don't fritter it away unless you get a ROI