I know this post is a repeat, but do you guys pay on the first date? Im going to eat and to the movies with this hot chick, but im unsure if i should pay. She is pretty cool, but Im not sure what to do...What do you guys think??
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it doesnt matter if you pay for something thats worth less than $5.....dont let money come into play in the first date, but you could buy her a coffee or something small you know just as long as it doesnt seem that youre trying to buy her attention is all good.....
MadeInTheUK
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how do you guys go about splitting the bill at the end?
if im meeting a girl in a pub/bar then i usually buy her a drink..and then after weve both finished that..i say same again please hun..as ****ie as i can...
but with stuff like movie/dinner how is it best to do it?
cheers
if im meeting a girl in a pub/bar then i usually buy her a drink..and then after weve both finished that..i say same again please hun..as ****ie as i can...
but with stuff like movie/dinner how is it best to do it?
cheers
If you insist on splitting the bill it works just as if you were friends (note my use of words).
Need more info: you pay for what you bought/ordered and she does the same. Dinner: she pays for her meal, movie: she pays for her ticket.
But if you create an atmosphere of equality you'll likely be LJBF'd
Need more info: you pay for what you bought/ordered and she does the same. Dinner: she pays for her meal, movie: she pays for her ticket.
But if you create an atmosphere of equality you'll likely be LJBF'd
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Hey man i don't think you should treat this much different from being with a friend, if i was to go out with someone i would probably pay for a few things but not everything. You say you are seeing a movie with a hot chick i would not pay for the ticket if i were you but i might buy her a drink or something small like that and maybe something to eat if it is not that much to spend just so she doesn't think you are a total cheapskate and maybe ocassionally pay for everything if i were to keep seeing her but not all the time.
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If you're just meeting for lunch or meeting up at a club or something, you shouldn't be paying for her. But if you're "taking her out," it's pretty much expected. A good woman will at least show some gratitude (a "thank you" or offering to pitch in for the tip or something), bear that in mind.
Just make sure you're spending the money for the right reasons. Never buy a girl anything to try to "win" her approval or affection, because you won't. If you're gonna do that, there are women down on the block who will allow you to conduct that transaction much more directly.
If you're short on cash, take her on a cheap-but-fun date. What I've found through experience is that if you've spend an inordinate amount of money on a woman on the first couple of dates, it's because you've lost control of the situation and you're probably letting this girl push you around.
And check her every now and then...tell her to get at least one round if you're out drinking, or if you're at the amusement park, tell her to buy you some funnel cake or something. (Hey, you paid $20 for her entry!
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Now if you're a REAL pimp, you MAY be able to get her to pay for everything, but only if she has low self-esteem.
Just make sure you're spending the money for the right reasons. Never buy a girl anything to try to "win" her approval or affection, because you won't. If you're gonna do that, there are women down on the block who will allow you to conduct that transaction much more directly.
If you're short on cash, take her on a cheap-but-fun date. What I've found through experience is that if you've spend an inordinate amount of money on a woman on the first couple of dates, it's because you've lost control of the situation and you're probably letting this girl push you around.
And check her every now and then...tell her to get at least one round if you're out drinking, or if you're at the amusement park, tell her to buy you some funnel cake or something. (Hey, you paid $20 for her entry!
)Now if you're a REAL pimp, you MAY be able to get her to pay for everything, but only if she has low self-esteem.