Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Pay for dinner, noobs

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Agent Zero said:
You're 39 and unmarried. I'm just warning guys who they take advice from.
A warning from you should tell them more than enough.

Still looking for you to post your personal words of wisdom that will enlighten us all...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Snow Plowman said:
...Age doesn't mean sh!t
Marraige comes down to the person, whether thats for them or not. Honestly marraige isn't for me and marraige wouldn't fit well in my lifestyle so...I'll be 39 and unmarried.
No need to argue that point to a guy who believe that a guy who's married is necessarily a step above a guy who's not. He probably also believe that a guy has to have at least a six figure salary to land a woman. He's been reading too many romance novels.
 
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Original poster - you are missing the point in your own advice

you are to not take a girl to dinner until you had sex.

A dinner first date will not work more often than not, because the best possible first dates are the ones with the most isolation, aka watching a movie at her/your place, having a few drinks together, and escalating things to sex..........and then you can go to dinner

except

because you are going to give her mind blowing sex, you are going to say "hey baby can u get me this time? i'm a lil low on money" - and then SHE pays for YOU
 

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The "dinner" date shoudl be saved for a woman who Qualified for you.
End of freakin'; story.
Action dates or just Meeting Up is the way to go when you first meet her.
If she's interested, she will still like it.
She wants to see YOU. Not food, or some dumb movie. How is she going to get excited about you?
Do things together. Do somethign out of the ordinairy.
The dinner and a movie is so boring women will vomit if they hear somethign like that as a first date from a guy they are (were) interested in.
Don't do this sh*t anymore.
Save it for the girl whom you KNOW is LTR material.
No flowers, No candy, No Cards,
None of that sh*t for some girl you just met!!!
Do not qualify a girl just because she showed up! Or she's "hawt."
Fck that.
No "Thanks for coming!"
Don't be overly grateful to some chick because she decided not to stay home and watch TV.
She will think this is low value behavior.
"Why is he so grateful?"
"He must not go on too many dates."
"Maybe this guy really IS a chump."
"Maybe I made a mistake."
If other women don't want you, why should she?
IF you act in the typical AFC behavior, guess what?
This makes her think you don't know sh*t about women, and you must not have any experience with women.
Bad signs.
Avoid this behavior.

Here's something I just thought of, which helps me reason out proper behavior.
Put yourself in the plac that a woman you just met, bought you flowers, and candy, and cards, and bowed down to your every need, told you how much she "loved" you after the first date, was overly self deprecating, was very needy, and jealous, and suffocated you with her 24hour surveillance/attention?
How would you feel?
You'd next her. You'd say "That b1tch is crazy!! I'm outta here!"

Now take that and chew on it a while.
 
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Interceptor said:
The "dinner" date shoudl be saved for a woman who Qualified for you.
End of freakin'; story.
Action dates or just Meeting Up is the way to go when you first meet her.
If she's interested, she will still like it.
She wants to see YOU. Not food, or some dumb movie. How is she going to get excited about you?
Do things together. Do somethign out of the ordinairy.
The dinner and a movie is so boring women will vomit if they hear somethign like that as a first date from a guy they are (were) interested in.
Don't do this sh*t anymore.
Save it for the girl whom you KNOW is LTR material.
No flowers, No candy, No Cards,
None of that sh*t for some girl you just met!!!
Do not qualify a girl just because she showed up! Or she's "hawt."
Fck that.
No "Thanks for coming!"
Don't be overly grateful to some chick because she decided not to stay home and watch TV.
She will think this is low value behavior.
"Why is he so grateful?"
"He must not go on too many dates."
"Maybe this guy really IS a chump."
"Maybe I made a mistake."
If other women don't want you, why should she?
IF you act in the typical AFC behavior, guess what?
This makes her think you don't know sh*t about women, and you must not have any experience with women.
Bad signs.
Avoid this behavior.
you just summed up my thoughts in a nice mature way there buddy lol
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Interceptor said:
...Now take that and chew on it a while.
I'm telling you guys, this type of reality is beyond the understanding (or maybe the ability) of a lot of guys...
 
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