Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Very cynical Bible. I disagree.Bible_Belt said:The NRA has won so many political battles that it is now getting desperate for new reasons to solicit donations. Now that they have concealed carry in every state except Illinois I think, they have to go after the restrictions on the concealed carry laws, which are places like college campuses and school buses, because obviously, if we could just get more guns on school buses, then we could really get this country turned around.
And the idea that your ar-15 is going to save you from a government that wants to oppress you is another creation of the NRA. Until you get your own aircraft carrier and nuclear subs, the US government would squash you like a bug, regardless of how many guns you have. If you're talking about resisting a militarily powerful foreign invader, yes it has been done on rare occasions in places like Vietnam, Afghanistan, and Iraq, but in those places, especially the latter two, improvised explosives are the weapon of choice. Until they make farming illegal, diesel fuel and fertilizer will always be everywhere. Every farmer has a barn full of both. Here's a picture of the OKC bombing, showing what a truck full of those two things do when combined: http://img.timeinc.net/time/photoessays/2010/oklahoma_city/oklahoma_city_01.jpg
That's why we could never win in Iraq, and that's also why an "armed citizenry" is completely irrelevant to resisting fascism, communism, space invaders, or any other boogeyman the NRA creates to get your money.
WinnerDanger said:The argument of many anti-gun zealots is that one could never muster the power to face the Government. And they are correct, if one only considers a conservative approach to battle.
When faced with the prospect of battling ANYTHING, I would much rather have a gun, than to not have one.
I am honestly shocked at how many people want to remove gun-ownershiop despite the second ammendment right to own one. It's as if people cannot connect the dots enough to realize that removing one right makes the rest fair game for removal.
And yes, one of the first things that dictators do when seizing power is to remove the ability for individuals to defend themselves. All of course, with nothing but the noblest of "good intentions". It truly is awful how people with such a glaring lack of vision have the power to significantly affect our lives by voting for, and supporting such ignorance.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.