You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Very cynical Bible. I disagree.Bible_Belt said:The NRA has won so many political battles that it is now getting desperate for new reasons to solicit donations. Now that they have concealed carry in every state except Illinois I think, they have to go after the restrictions on the concealed carry laws, which are places like college campuses and school buses, because obviously, if we could just get more guns on school buses, then we could really get this country turned around.
And the idea that your ar-15 is going to save you from a government that wants to oppress you is another creation of the NRA. Until you get your own aircraft carrier and nuclear subs, the US government would squash you like a bug, regardless of how many guns you have. If you're talking about resisting a militarily powerful foreign invader, yes it has been done on rare occasions in places like Vietnam, Afghanistan, and Iraq, but in those places, especially the latter two, improvised explosives are the weapon of choice. Until they make farming illegal, diesel fuel and fertilizer will always be everywhere. Every farmer has a barn full of both. Here's a picture of the OKC bombing, showing what a truck full of those two things do when combined: http://img.timeinc.net/time/photoessays/2010/oklahoma_city/oklahoma_city_01.jpg
That's why we could never win in Iraq, and that's also why an "armed citizenry" is completely irrelevant to resisting fascism, communism, space invaders, or any other boogeyman the NRA creates to get your money.
WinnerDanger said:The argument of many anti-gun zealots is that one could never muster the power to face the Government. And they are correct, if one only considers a conservative approach to battle.
When faced with the prospect of battling ANYTHING, I would much rather have a gun, than to not have one.
I am honestly shocked at how many people want to remove gun-ownershiop despite the second ammendment right to own one. It's as if people cannot connect the dots enough to realize that removing one right makes the rest fair game for removal.
And yes, one of the first things that dictators do when seizing power is to remove the ability for individuals to defend themselves. All of course, with nothing but the noblest of "good intentions". It truly is awful how people with such a glaring lack of vision have the power to significantly affect our lives by voting for, and supporting such ignorance.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.