Boilermaker
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"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Patreaus article in NYT
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Boilermaker
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I think; his recent scandal allowed others to talk about the "real" him.
This is relevant because it shows how feminine and "soft" the top commanders in the military are becoming ... Read the full article and you'll get it.
Food for thought.
This is relevant because it shows how feminine and "soft" the top commanders in the military are becoming ... Read the full article and you'll get it.
Food for thought.
Vicente0309
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Consider both the writer and the source before jumping to any conclusions about Patreaus' military and/or leadership competencies
Boilermaker
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so you created an account just to say that?
Interesting.
Enlighten me about the writer. I might have heard of his father, Truscott sounds familiar.
The source is the NYT as you can see.
Interesting.
Enlighten me about the writer. I might have heard of his father, Truscott sounds familiar.
The source is the NYT as you can see.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Boilermaker said:
Petraeus does not look tough at all from the pics. It looks like I could easily kick his ass.
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The generals of today are nothing more than celebrities in uniforms, as the article correctly pointed out. Patreaus' popularity was a result of carefully orchestrated PR, not his extraordinary character or military accomplishments. The media made him a hero in the first place, and now that he has fallen out of favor, they are tearing him down.evan12 said:
I can't say why, and I'm to tired to think, but I found the entire tone and content of that article disgusting. That's just my gut reaction. It may not vibe with the tone in this thread, but that's how I feel about it.
Rollo Tomassi
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I think there's a real desire to see our Generals in the same light as Patton or Mac Arthur, so we paint up this romanticism about them. You have to remember that Petraeus and Allen are a couple of the first Generals from Generation AFC, people just don't want to adjust to that reality.
taiyuu_otoko
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Lot of issues to wade through in order to make sense of that piece.
1) dude who wrote it is a budding screenwriter, among other things, so naturally he'll try to create as much drama as possible.
2) It's an opinion piece, so much if it is merely a reflection of his own personal beliefs
3) you can't really compare current generals to WWII generals, as the military industrial complex has changed how wars are fought significantly. Going in, kicking ass, and winning isn't necessarily the outcome. Bit more complicated today.
The dudes who exist today who would have been nail eating generals of yesterday are still around, they're just in different places. That generals today are more political than they were fifty years ago is really an aspect of changing political/banking/global business structures than anything else.
Personally, I try to stay away from NYT op-ed pieces.
Nothing useful there.
1) dude who wrote it is a budding screenwriter, among other things, so naturally he'll try to create as much drama as possible.
2) It's an opinion piece, so much if it is merely a reflection of his own personal beliefs
3) you can't really compare current generals to WWII generals, as the military industrial complex has changed how wars are fought significantly. Going in, kicking ass, and winning isn't necessarily the outcome. Bit more complicated today.
The dudes who exist today who would have been nail eating generals of yesterday are still around, they're just in different places. That generals today are more political than they were fifty years ago is really an aspect of changing political/banking/global business structures than anything else.
Personally, I try to stay away from NYT op-ed pieces.
Nothing useful there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.