"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Patreaus article in NYT

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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yesterday he was one of American Heroes , today he is a phony hero?
 

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I think; his recent scandal allowed others to talk about the "real" him.

This is relevant because it shows how feminine and "soft" the top commanders in the military are becoming ... Read the full article and you'll get it.

Food for thought.
 

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Consider both the writer and the source before jumping to any conclusions about Patreaus' military and/or leadership competencies
 

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so you created an account just to say that?

Interesting.

Enlighten me about the writer. I might have heard of his father, Truscott sounds familiar.

The source is the NYT as you can see.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Boilermaker said:
I think; his recent scandal allowed others to talk about the "real" him.

This is relevant because it shows how feminine and "soft" the top commanders in the military are becoming ... Read the full article and you'll get it.

Food for thought.

Petraeus does not look tough at all from the pics. It looks like I could easily kick his ass.
 

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evan12 said:
yesterday he was one of American Heroes , today he is a phony hero?
The generals of today are nothing more than celebrities in uniforms, as the article correctly pointed out. Patreaus' popularity was a result of carefully orchestrated PR, not his extraordinary character or military accomplishments. The media made him a hero in the first place, and now that he has fallen out of favor, they are tearing him down.
 

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I can't say why, and I'm to tired to think, but I found the entire tone and content of that article disgusting. That's just my gut reaction. It may not vibe with the tone in this thread, but that's how I feel about it.
 

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I think there's a real desire to see our Generals in the same light as Patton or Mac Arthur, so we paint up this romanticism about them. You have to remember that Petraeus and Allen are a couple of the first Generals from Generation AFC, people just don't want to adjust to that reality.
 

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Lot of issues to wade through in order to make sense of that piece.

1) dude who wrote it is a budding screenwriter, among other things, so naturally he'll try to create as much drama as possible.

2) It's an opinion piece, so much if it is merely a reflection of his own personal beliefs

3) you can't really compare current generals to WWII generals, as the military industrial complex has changed how wars are fought significantly. Going in, kicking ass, and winning isn't necessarily the outcome. Bit more complicated today.

The dudes who exist today who would have been nail eating generals of yesterday are still around, they're just in different places. That generals today are more political than they were fifty years ago is really an aspect of changing political/banking/global business structures than anything else.

Personally, I try to stay away from NYT op-ed pieces.

Nothing useful there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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