"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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patience is a virtue! Learn it!

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When I first began 8 or so years ago this is something I totally lacked. It has become one the most important attributes to my game these days...

When texting be Patient don’t answer right away (Duh)

When speaking in a approach don’t interrupt, let her finish speaking...and don’t reveal everything at once leave some things to mystery (this will make her ask more questions and create more convo)

Speak slowly but not to slow, pause when needed.

Don’t force situations that can be too soon, dates/kissing/sex/calling/texting (make sure you have spent enough time to build the proper rapport)

These things are great to learn but what’s the easiest to make these come NATURAL and AUTHENTIC.....HAVE A HOBBY AND REAL OBLIGATIONS

By having other things that you’re committed to will help you not look needy and desperate so learn it...Have fun with it...enjoy life...like always....

Keep Spinning,
J0504S
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Great post my bro!
 

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Patience is very important, good post indeed. I would like to add that it´s also important to be relaxed, relaxed with yourself. Assume the girl likes you, and know that there are more girls than just this particular girl.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LittleBigOne said:
Patience is very important, good post indeed. I would like to add that it´s also important to be relaxed, relaxed with yourself. Assume the girl likes you, and know that there are more girls than just this particular girl.
also great points!!!
 

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This is something that helped me alot before i was consistantly spinning plates...Helped get the right mind set and held me back from texting for no reason. Taught me I didnt need the validation form any one or anything...to be at peace with my self very important quality for a DJ!
 

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Bump because this is an amazing post that I really needed to see, and I hope someone else will get something from it too.
 

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Absolutely Jimmy! A popular term these days is "thirsty" meaning overeager. Lack of patience has killed a few prospects for me and sadly I'm usually aware when I'm acting too thirsty but it's difficult to stop myself. Since you bumped this I'd love to hear if anybody has any techniques that they use to stay patient?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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call me a complete no life nerd who is obsessed with finance industry/stock market, but there are so many similiarities
i.e.
1) diversification=u can't put all ur net worth into one company, too diversified portfolio usually yields much lower returns (buffett or O'Neil mentioned something like diversification is a bliss for ignorance) in dating=spin plates, have few chicks so you dont get obsessed, or at least have chicks to choose from, not getting attached is also important
2) as OP mentioned, patience pays pretty sick in the stock market, being able to hold thru sh1t periods obeying your system/methodology is just priceless. same with girls, OP elaborated nicely
3) controlling emotions aka greed and fear... being able to control this and trade like a robot=success. same with chicks
Touche I am doing better trading than dating, oh well, just beginning
 
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