"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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patience, do we need it?

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As a mature dj's, do we need to be patient when your girl is hardheaded in an LTR?

A little bit confusing, because I don’t know if I get mad on her or be patient. Sometimes I thought living her.

I know that being a man should be patient at all times but my question is do we need it really?:confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Patience is a sign of maturity.


What are the reasons why you're mad at her? Maybe your anger is justified. Maybe she crossed the line and as a man you have to call on her f-ups. Don't confuse patience and acting as a doormat as identical.
 
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Given time, patience becomes complacency.
 
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A bit of patience is good. More important than patience is calmness. You can let her know that a certain behavior is unacceptable in a very calm manner. Being calm while expressing disapproval is powerful because it gives a woman a sense that you are detached from the situation and this scares the sh!t out of them.
 
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Originally posted by comote
A bit of patience is good. More important than patience is calmness. You can let her know that a certain behavior is unacceptable in a very calm manner. Being calm while expressing disapproval is powerful because it gives a woman a sense that you are detached from the situation and this scares the sh!t out of them.
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Very well put!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Exactly. I've been in a couple LTRs and I never ever raise my voice (ever) and you're right, chicks are like "whoa". Especially when they start yelling. Just sit there, appear to "take it", but then say something like, "would you like to talk about this like mature adults?" If she keeps yelling, either repeat the line, say, "do you feel better/are you finished", or just leave...
 
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thanks guyz

But she's not good in conversation. When we are arguing i can't understand every word she is saying, and when i want her to say it again. she's getting mad. I can't help my temper.
 
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If you can't keep calm that's not really her fault is it?

The more she loses her temper then the more powerful your calm dissaproval becomes.
 
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