patience, do we need it?

[tatlongxxx]

As a mature dj's, do we need to be patient when your girl is hardheaded in an LTR?

A little bit confusing, because I don’t know if I get mad on her or be patient. Sometimes I thought living her.

I know that being a man should be patient at all times but my question is do we need it really?

 

[Aztec]

Patience is a sign of maturity.


What are the reasons why you're mad at her? Maybe your anger is justified. Maybe she crossed the line and as a man you have to call on her f-ups. Don't confuse patience and acting as a doormat as identical.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Given time, patience becomes complacency.

 

[comote]

A bit of patience is good. More important than patience is calmness. You can let her know that a certain behavior is unacceptable in a very calm manner. Being calm while expressing disapproval is powerful because it gives a woman a sense that you are detached from the situation and this scares the sh!t out of them.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by comote
A bit of patience is good. More important than patience is calmness. You can let her know that a certain behavior is unacceptable in a very calm manner. Being calm while expressing disapproval is powerful because it gives a woman a sense that you are detached from the situation and this scares the sh!t out of them.

Very well put!

 

[parisaga]

Exactly. I've been in a couple LTRs and I never ever raise my voice (ever) and you're right, chicks are like "whoa". Especially when they start yelling. Just sit there, appear to "take it", but then say something like, "would you like to talk about this like mature adults?" If she keeps yelling, either repeat the line, say, "do you feel better/are you finished", or just leave...

 

[tatlongxxx]

thanks guyz

But she's not good in conversation. When we are arguing i can't understand every word she is saying, and when i want her to say it again. she's getting mad. I can't help my temper.

 

[comote]

If you can't keep calm that's not really her fault is it?

The more she loses her temper then the more powerful your calm dissaproval becomes.