Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Past regrets/shame/guilt

F

Forty0ztoFreedom

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 8, 2008
Messages
493
Reaction score
10
How do you guys deal with this? I have done things in my past, in darker times . . I didn't hurt anyone or anything, but lets just say its stuff that I am ashamed of. Some days I can just say "the past is the past" but once in a while it just weighs on me. I start a negative thinking pattern that ends up with me thinking I am completely worthless and irredeemable.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

S

scottfall

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 8, 2007
Messages
155
Reaction score
9
You have to take pride in who you are now.

The feeling of guilt is only useful in the moment you first experience it. Its not a feeling people are meant to live with. It does nothing but take away from the brilliance of your future. If you feel bad about your dark past you should make sure your future is brighter.
 
L

loving

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 8, 2008
Messages
206
Reaction score
2
Location
Follow your bliss
scottfall said:
You have to take pride in who you are now.

The feeling of guilt is only useful in the moment you first experience it. Its not a feeling people are meant to live with. It does nothing but take away from the brilliance of your future. If you feel bad about your dark past you should make sure your future is brighter.
Click to expand...
I think too many replies clouds an OP's mind and so they don't get the real advise.

Focus on what you want. Negativity feeds negativity, positivity feeds positivity.

That's the real advise.
 
M

MANG

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 9, 2008
Messages
28
Reaction score
1
Laugh at those moments. You messed up but you learned a lesson
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top