Past girls

[sam3083]

Do I really have to forget about all the girls that I know since becoming a DJ?

Some of them (one in particualr that I am very interested in), kind of come in the border between me being a ***** and me beginning to grow in confidence.

I think I will see once and for all if there is a chance with this girl regardless. I will then either enter a relationship with her or forget about her.

 

[mpimpin]

Good luck! and NO you don't have to forget girls you already know. If you are any sort of DJ you'll be able to turn things around even with girls you've messed up with in the past. Some may not agree with me, but I promise you I do it everyday

 

[sam3083]

A lot of people on here seem to be saying to forget about old girls, but as a DJ, I believe I can turn it around. Heck, I believe I can even bust a girl out of the 'friend zone'.... maybe.

Ok, so my problem has had another development. The girl that I am working on at the moment, is currently trying to set me up with her firend. What are your thoughts on this? Do i still have a chance? and what should i do about it?

 

[sam3083]

Oh, and Im not interested in the girl who she is trying to set me up with

 

[jesusrules]

hell thats up to you. theres chicks in my past that are kinda hot, but I would rather meet someone new. That means I can start out fresh, instead of thinking about the past. its up to you. good luck with your choice.

 

[Plec07]

If this chick is trying to set you up with her mate I doubt she is interested. It just doesn't seem logical. But then again when have women ever followed normal logic?

I would reduce the ammount of time you spend with her to become distant. Then game her like a girl you've just met and hope for the best. If your DJ skills are up to it it'll work. It's how I got myself into my current relationship.

 

[ItWasntMe]

If this chick is trying to set you up with her mate I doubt she is interested. It just doesn't seem logical. But then again when have women ever followed normal logic?

I would reduce the ammount of time you spend with her to become distant. Then game her like a girl you've just met and hope for the best. If your DJ skills are up to it it'll work. It's how I got myself into my current relationship.

You don't even have to distance yourself that much. Just hang out with different people for a week or 2 while occasionally talking to her on msn or w/e messenger you use and you're in the clear as long as your DJ skills are up to par.

 

[Plec07]

You don't even have to distance yourself that much. Just hang out with different people for a week or 2 while occasionally talking to her on msn or w/e messenger you use and you're in the clear as long as your DJ skills are up to par.

To be honest you don't even have to distance yourself at all if your DJ skills are good enough. Distancing yourself is simply an unecissary prepperation that could make it easyer.

 

[ItWasntMe]

To be honest you don't even have to distance yourself at all if your DJ skills are good enough. Distancing yourself is simply an unecissary prepperation that could make it easyer.

Yeah but if you're slowly adapting to the DJ lifestyle then you're better off distancing yourself so they see the big change in you instead of them watching you change and barely notice it. If you change all at once in one day they'll think something is wrong with you. It's like the difference between you living with your parents for a year and then you meeting up with a friend you haven't seen in a year. To your parents you look the same as always but to your friend you're totally different. You might be taller, have longer hair, be more tanned, more mature, w/e. Distancing yourself is the best way to go I think.

 

[Plec07]

^ Agreed

 

[sam3083]

OK I think you guys are spot on with your advice. However, becasue of my slowness in acting on this girl, she has now got a boyfriend. Do I still pursue her/ show interest and go on as if the boyfriend doesn't exist?

 

[Plec07]

Unless you really think you can still get her with a boyfriend then I would next her. There isn't really much point going into a love triangle.