Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Pandora,
Is this the Woman from Dagestan you told us about?
Is this the Woman from Dagestan you told us about?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Passport "bro"..i may have messed up
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DreamAgain
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Pandora, you are making a mistake here.
There are too many variables that can go wrong, the culture shock will be huge for her.
How good is her knowledge of the english language, what marketable skills does she have, do you intend for her to be a stay at home wife?
Many cases like this of women being brought back end up in divorce, not necessarily because of anything you did wrong, but it is too much of a shock to the system for the weaker sex.
The winning formula is to find a second generation american girl who still has roots to her homeland, I hope you heed my message well. Who is integrated into society, who can be a team player financially, but yet still has some connection to traditional values from her parents.
There are too many variables that can go wrong, the culture shock will be huge for her.
How good is her knowledge of the english language, what marketable skills does she have, do you intend for her to be a stay at home wife?
Many cases like this of women being brought back end up in divorce, not necessarily because of anything you did wrong, but it is too much of a shock to the system for the weaker sex.
The winning formula is to find a second generation american girl who still has roots to her homeland, I hope you heed my message well. Who is integrated into society, who can be a team player financially, but yet still has some connection to traditional values from her parents.
Women are emotionally driven, if you can keep her in check, you have full access to her mind and body.
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If I wanted a full time second job I'd go get one that pays a lot better.
I agree. I should clarify that she can not come to the USA ever ( or atleast for 15yrs). Her visa was denied thankfully. I will not be bringing her back. My question is how viable is it to raise a family in another country? I can not live there for more than half the year. I will have to figure out how to make money online and I have about 1 yr to figure this out.
Some women have husbands that go back and forth but I am not sure that will work for us.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lol I wish she was from Dagestan. She could teach me how to wrestle. Close but not quite Dagestan.
This is the girl from that region that is super nice, submissive, thin, is obsessed with me etc. Her family loves me etc. She does have flaws but I am much happier with her than I was with any American woman.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Pandora,
What sort of things do you do together?how do you communicate with her Family?What's her English like?
What sort of things do you do together?how do you communicate with her Family?What's her English like?
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you'll have to take the plunge and go there.
Learn the language and get employed locally, using your american savings as a financial buffer.
In the meantime figure out ways to make more income.
If she is truly the one this will be a worthwhile endeavor.
Thank you for the support bro. I think you are right.
Her english is very good. It is surprisingly good. We get along great ( for now, we used to fight a bit before) and have much of the same humor. Thanks to social media humor is becoming homogenous. We all watch the same instagram stuff etc.
We both love the same things. Spirituality, plant medicines, exercise etc. Her family likes me a lot. Her older brother is a really chill dude. Her mom is very gentle and nice. Her father is crazy but he likes me for some reason. Her father has extreme temper issues. She got a lot of daddy issues from him. Other than that he is ok.
I communicate with her family via google translate. I also get her to interpret for me. Sometimes the neighbors ( who speak english) will translate.
Going foreign has been such a refreshing change for me. I cant imagine dating Americans again. I really like the simple culture. I like the fact that she had never been on a plane before, or the fact that she looks up to me, or the fact that she does not aspire to be a boss CEO babe.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I have to convert before the wedding. The father said i must.
Yes exactly! I would never hit a woman though unless its self defense and she is a fat chick.Well, the perks are that you can discipline your woman without consequences...
The leverage i have with her in that country is nice. With great power comes great responsibility though.
Scaramouche
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Hi Pandora,
Sounds quite a Woman....Given that she has her native language and that her education was probably in Russian,she has three languages,three Souls!....Go for it
Only the Great Architect knows what is in your heart so maybe you swear allegiance to Islam with crossed fingers LOL.
Sounds quite a Woman....Given that she has her native language and that her education was probably in Russian,she has three languages,three Souls!....Go for it
Only the Great Architect knows what is in your heart so maybe you swear allegiance to Islam with crossed fingers LOL.
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Seems like you are bending over backwards to marry a woman you are unsure about. Why?
I hear you man but I like the culture of Islam. My first name is Muslim. I was raised Christian though.
I dont believe in any religion so I look at it as a cultural thing. I can fake it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Noo..i really love middle eastern and norh african culture. I respect Islam alot. I dont mind converting. I look forward to it.
My West African name is rooted in Islam.
1.) She is pretty af...to me
2.) She is obsessed with me
3.) First guy to show her the world
4.) She is thin
5.) Not a single mother ( they dont play that **** in that nation).
6.) She does have serious issues. She aint perfect but 80% of her is.
To be honest I would not be able to lock this down in the USA in my late 30s. Im just keeping it real. I can smash attractive American girls but they are too rebellious for me.
I was never bad with women but most of the women in my age group are single mothers. If they are not single mothers then they are nuts.
This chick was 24 when i met her. I was like 36. Unless you are rich you aint getting a childless, semi submissive child free chick at 36.
My question is why are single men not going overseas?
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Pandora,
"My question is why are single men not going overseas?"Well the Bars in most Philippino Cities are full of Westerners,most just wasting their time on Bar Girls who are just in it for the dollars LOL.
"My question is why are single men not going overseas?"Well the Bars in most Philippino Cities are full of Westerners,most just wasting their time on Bar Girls who are just in it for the dollars LOL.
Ahh yes i can only imagine. I have heard that the Philipines is over saturated.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Pandora,
" I have heard that the Philipines is over saturated."You are right,but if you line your Ducks up on an Internet Dating Site even an old Duffer like me can easily score,but they come with a lot of drawbacks!
" I have heard that the Philipines is over saturated."You are right,but if you line your Ducks up on an Internet Dating Site even an old Duffer like me can easily score,but they come with a lot of drawbacks!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.