I am recently dealing with some drama in my crew. See very often we find ourselves dating the same girls. It just happens. There are guys in this crew that think it stops with them and they can date and do whatever they want. Well I started seeing a girl that used to go out with one of these guys ( One who has nailed 4 of our ex girlfriends) and she didn't want me to tell him because he has a history of herassing her and violence towards her exes. I've wanted to tell him from the start but this is what she wanted and other guys felt it was best left alone for now. Now he has found out and I spoke to him and told him everything. He doesn't want to fight and he says hes not gonna herass her but he doesn't trust me and doesn't want to speak to me or come near him. We've had dscussions about girls and her and he feels that it is messed up that this was going on off and on all this time. Me and her dated a couple times on and off. Part of the reason it fell apart when it did was because she wouldn't let me tell him. I feel that he is being extremly hypocritical. He has had a steady girlfriend for 3 years and hasn't been with this one in 4. The reason he hates her so much is because she tryed to help him with his cocaine habbit and told his parents. Some guys agree with me other guys are not getting my side of the story. Now he is trying to turn all of my friends against me. How do I handle this?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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LOL... stop catching feeling for hos... just F them and keep it moving .. if you find a good girl who is LTR material keep her away from you "Crew".... Dont expect to have a serious girlfriend as long as you are tight with this "crew"
Thats understandable the issue is not with her at the moment though, its with him. What do I do about his hypocritical behavior and trying to turn people against me?DonGorgon said:LOL... stop catching feeling for hos... just F them and keep it moving .. if you find a good girl who is LTR material keep her away from you "Crew".... Dont expect to have a serious girlfriend as long as you are tight with this "crew"
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Nothing... you cant change him... you need to grow out of the "crew" and find 1 or 2 real friends , but I know how hard that can be.sosilky said:Thats understandable the issue is not with her at the moment though, its with him. What do I do about his hypocritical behavior and trying to turn people against me?
i have 1 or 2 good friends within that crew, I know him threw them and we are all supposed to get together this weekDonGorgon said:Nothing... you cant change him... you need to grow out of the "crew" and find 1 or 2 real friends , but I know how hard that can be.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Avoid physical confrontation... is the only thingsosilky said:i have 1 or 2 good friends within that crew, I know him threw them and we are all supposed to get together this week
Obviously but now I need to figure out how to approach this thing correctly to keep the peace with him and everybody else. (that does this **** all the time ironicaly, bros before hoes is kind of our motto but this one feels like once i've nailed no one else can its bull****)DonGorgon said:Avoid physical confrontation... is the only thing
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This is simple...sosilky said:bump
either..
1. Date girls has has not dated or
2. Date his exes and fight him eventually..
That's so unfairDonGorgon said:This is simple...
either..
1. Date girls has has not dated or
2. Date his exes and fight him eventually..
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Life ISN'T fair.sosilky said:That's so unfair
Just do whatever the hell you feel like and deal with any repercussions that may arise. If you worry about other peoples' feelings all the time then you will screw yourself over. Not to say you should be a ****, but just look out for number one.
I'm starting to notice this is true. But why is that? Why is it true?MooseGod said:Life ISN'T fair.
If you worry about other peoples' feelings all the time then you will screw yourself over.
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Human nature. If you think about it, we are all competing for limited resources on one level or another. People are basically animals.
Very smart animals, but animals nonetheless.
Very smart animals, but animals nonetheless.