I am recently dealing with some drama in my crew. See very often we find ourselves dating the same girls. It just happens. There are guys in this crew that think it stops with them and they can date and do whatever they want. Well I started seeing a girl that used to go out with one of these guys ( One who has nailed 4 of our ex girlfriends) and she didn't want me to tell him because he has a history of herassing her and violence towards her exes. I've wanted to tell him from the start but this is what she wanted and other guys felt it was best left alone for now. Now he has found out and I spoke to him and told him everything. He doesn't want to fight and he says hes not gonna herass her but he doesn't trust me and doesn't want to speak to me or come near him. We've had dscussions about girls and her and he feels that it is messed up that this was going on off and on all this time. Me and her dated a couple times on and off. Part of the reason it fell apart when it did was because she wouldn't let me tell him. I feel that he is being extremly hypocritical. He has had a steady girlfriend for 3 years and hasn't been with this one in 4. The reason he hates her so much is because she tryed to help him with his cocaine habbit and told his parents. Some guys agree with me other guys are not getting my side of the story. Now he is trying to turn all of my friends against me. How do I handle this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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LOL... stop catching feeling for hos... just F them and keep it moving .. if you find a good girl who is LTR material keep her away from you "Crew".... Dont expect to have a serious girlfriend as long as you are tight with this "crew"
Thats understandable the issue is not with her at the moment though, its with him. What do I do about his hypocritical behavior and trying to turn people against me?DonGorgon said:LOL... stop catching feeling for hos... just F them and keep it moving .. if you find a good girl who is LTR material keep her away from you "Crew".... Dont expect to have a serious girlfriend as long as you are tight with this "crew"
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Nothing... you cant change him... you need to grow out of the "crew" and find 1 or 2 real friends , but I know how hard that can be.sosilky said:Thats understandable the issue is not with her at the moment though, its with him. What do I do about his hypocritical behavior and trying to turn people against me?
i have 1 or 2 good friends within that crew, I know him threw them and we are all supposed to get together this weekDonGorgon said:Nothing... you cant change him... you need to grow out of the "crew" and find 1 or 2 real friends , but I know how hard that can be.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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Avoid physical confrontation... is the only thingsosilky said:i have 1 or 2 good friends within that crew, I know him threw them and we are all supposed to get together this week
Obviously but now I need to figure out how to approach this thing correctly to keep the peace with him and everybody else. (that does this **** all the time ironicaly, bros before hoes is kind of our motto but this one feels like once i've nailed no one else can its bull****)DonGorgon said:Avoid physical confrontation... is the only thing
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This is simple...sosilky said:bump
either..
1. Date girls has has not dated or
2. Date his exes and fight him eventually..
That's so unfairDonGorgon said:This is simple...
either..
1. Date girls has has not dated or
2. Date his exes and fight him eventually..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Life ISN'T fair.sosilky said:That's so unfair
Just do whatever the hell you feel like and deal with any repercussions that may arise. If you worry about other peoples' feelings all the time then you will screw yourself over. Not to say you should be a ****, but just look out for number one.
I'm starting to notice this is true. But why is that? Why is it true?MooseGod said:Life ISN'T fair.
If you worry about other peoples' feelings all the time then you will screw yourself over.
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Human nature. If you think about it, we are all competing for limited resources on one level or another. People are basically animals.
Very smart animals, but animals nonetheless.
Very smart animals, but animals nonetheless.