"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Party Tactics
- Thread starter Thugo
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next, talk to alot of women....If one girl isnt digging your style, no big deal, just politely say "cya later" or "I need another drink" and talk to someone else. Be sure to maintain EYE CONTACT! This is really the biggest thing that I do when I talk to women at parties, you will be suprised how many guys talk to girls and never look into their eyes. Also, make sure you are having a good time, keep the conversation interesting and make her laugh. Occasionally throw some KINO in, other girls will notice how much fun you are having and be intrigued.
Now, it just depends on how much of a connection you make with a girl. After talking for a few minutes you can suggest dancing (a nice opportunity to get close to them). Or if you are having a good conversation, you suggest sitting down and talking some more. I can usually tell if girls are interested, if they look like it, I keep moving closer to them. Then if they follow suit, I just go in for the kiss and we usually end up making out. Dont make out too long though, girls dont want to look like sluts in front of alot of other people. So afterwards, I say something like "This party seems to be getting a little lame, lets head back to my place and have a drink." If she agrees to go, then you know you will have a fun night ahead of you.
Cliff Notes: Talk to alot of girls, be outgoing and interesting, maintain eye contact, initiate KINO, go for the kiss, and suggest goin to your place.
PS: This is usually my recipie for a one night stand. If you find a girl you may want to go out with, just talk and/or dance for a while, get her number, and call a few days later.
WC2
Master Don Juan
Not does meeting people not only improve your conversational skills, but it also shows you're a confident, outgoing individual.
2. Set yourself apart
It's easy to be like everyone else. Set yourself apart when you talk to people. While most guys might be avoiding talking to women, you should be right out there with no fear whatsoever. Set yourself apart with your dress and bodylanguage. Girls like nothing better than a man who has a commanding body language and isn't afraid to show it off
3. The way you talk
What do I find most women like? They like a guy who's witty and funny. They like to be talked to in a unique way. If you use the same lines all the other guys are using, you're just another fish in the sea. Be original, be spontaneous, and don't be afraid to use neg hits. After all, girls have gotten the "what's your name, what's your favorite drink, where are you from" countless times. Poking fun will do nothing but put you in a different catorgory.
4. Talk to as many women as you can
Sure most guys don't have a problem carrying on a conversation with their guy friends (or so I hope). How about you talk to the women in the place? Once girls see you talking to other women, you are labled as a legitimate player on the block. Why is he talking to her and not me? You get the idea.
Short and brief, but hopefully to the point
best of luck
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at a party, is it better to talk before dancing or go up on a girl and start dancing right away after maybe a touch?
I always talk to them first, then say "why dont we go dance." First, it gives them the opportunity to say no. I dont want to waste my time with a girl if she is completely uninterested. Also, you can grind a little closer and maybe parlay dancing into making out or something if you have already laid some groundwork. I always feel a little akward dancing with some girl ive never talked to before.xcrunner4623 said:i got a question that goes along with this...
at a party, is it better to talk before dancing or go up on a girl and start dancing right away after maybe a touch?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.