"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Walking Anomaly

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Whats up all...

I called my boys today and found they were goin to a party, but werent positive they were goin...so in case that fell through i made plans with my gf of 2 months... Well they didnt fall through and now im having to cancel on my girl...im one for livin by the "bros before hoes" saying, and i want to see my boys...****s been busy and seein them's been scarce.

So, come on...im sayin cancel on her, right boys?... tell her somethin came up, or that my boys came in and havent seen them in a while so imma chill wit them tonight...not gona say im goin to a party tho.

what ya think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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I'm usually for the "BBH" saying also. But not always (as most people/wannabes are "dedicated" to that saying).

But actually, your GF should understand you haven't hungout with your friends lately. You could always tell her to give you a raincheck for the next day, or next weekend -- and STICK TO THE RAINCHECK!

It's more complicated when your dudes give you a 50/50-party/no party thing when you have to decide.

I guess it's fine to go to the party. But, if they don't go, ask your girl if it's cool to see her still (not in a "you're second pick" kind of way).
 

Walking Anomaly

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what about if her grandfather jus had a heartattack 3 days ago... so shes feelin a bit down.

Id say that i should see her, bring some light into her life for a bit.

But i also kinda dont want to see her when shes upset...ya kno? like im not a shoulder to cry on..at least thats not the boyfriend i want to be all the time.

thoughts?
 

oakraiderz2

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Im guessing your friends are more important to you than her grandpa is to you. Chill with your homes that you havent seen in a while. If she starts complaining tell her youll call her later, if she doesnt understand, handle it later
 

penkitten

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there is always another option.
your gf is upset , her grandpa died and she prolly needs to get outta the house.
you seem like you enjoy her company too.

is it totally out of the question to take her with you? its just an option, for you to do both.

and it is good to get out with just your pals once in a while, its healthy for you and your relationship. so if you want to do that, just be honest. she should understand if she really cares for you.
 

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