"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Walking Anomaly

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Whats up all...

I called my boys today and found they were goin to a party, but werent positive they were goin...so in case that fell through i made plans with my gf of 2 months... Well they didnt fall through and now im having to cancel on my girl...im one for livin by the "bros before hoes" saying, and i want to see my boys...****s been busy and seein them's been scarce.

So, come on...im sayin cancel on her, right boys?... tell her somethin came up, or that my boys came in and havent seen them in a while so imma chill wit them tonight...not gona say im goin to a party tho.

what ya think?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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I'm usually for the "BBH" saying also. But not always (as most people/wannabes are "dedicated" to that saying).

But actually, your GF should understand you haven't hungout with your friends lately. You could always tell her to give you a raincheck for the next day, or next weekend -- and STICK TO THE RAINCHECK!

It's more complicated when your dudes give you a 50/50-party/no party thing when you have to decide.

I guess it's fine to go to the party. But, if they don't go, ask your girl if it's cool to see her still (not in a "you're second pick" kind of way).
 

Walking Anomaly

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what about if her grandfather jus had a heartattack 3 days ago... so shes feelin a bit down.

Id say that i should see her, bring some light into her life for a bit.

But i also kinda dont want to see her when shes upset...ya kno? like im not a shoulder to cry on..at least thats not the boyfriend i want to be all the time.

thoughts?
 

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Im guessing your friends are more important to you than her grandpa is to you. Chill with your homes that you havent seen in a while. If she starts complaining tell her youll call her later, if she doesnt understand, handle it later
 

penkitten

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there is always another option.
your gf is upset , her grandpa died and she prolly needs to get outta the house.
you seem like you enjoy her company too.

is it totally out of the question to take her with you? its just an option, for you to do both.

and it is good to get out with just your pals once in a while, its healthy for you and your relationship. so if you want to do that, just be honest. she should understand if she really cares for you.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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