"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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titan27

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i recently got with this girl at my school shes about an hb7 shes coo and everything but she always out with her friends and stuff while im at summer school and football practice...there have been situations where she choses to go out with them for the night over going out with me....should i let this go on or should i stop this behaivor and if so how
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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titan27 said:
i recently got with this girl at my school shes about an hb7 shes coo and everything but she always out with her friends and stuff while im at summer school and football practice...there have been situations where she choses to go out with them for the night over going out with me....should i let this go on or should i stop this behaivor and if so how
Well, I wouldn't say that there is anything wrong with her wanting to go out, per se, but... it wouldn't surprise me that much if she's either losing interest in you, or cheating when you're not around. It seems like she doesn't value time around you that much, which isn't a good thing.

As for stopping this... you can't. If she decides that she'd rather go out than be with you, you're already not all that important to her, so threatening to walk away probably won't solve much of anything.
 

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Just because she likes going out with her girls doesn't mean she doesn't like you. Some girls do value their friends very highly, and hate breaking plans with them. Another thing to note is you just got with this girl. Nothing else. It takes a little more than that to keep a girl wanting to see you more.
 

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Ah, I've been through this again and again. There are a lot of ways to look at this. You can't get upset every time she goes out with her friends. I mean, you want to be with your friends too, so why not let her do the same? You guys don't seem like you're dating exclusively, so I wouldn't be too worried about it. While I was in high school, I've always kept the mentality to give the girl something that she doesn't normally get on a daily basis. Make her feel special around you and she'll always want to be around. This may seem kind of vague but this is the best advice you could have gotten for this situation.
 

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If u's arn't dating, then theres a simple solution,

If she wants to go out with friends, then theres no stopping you going out and having fun neway. Go out meet some new girls, if she sees you dancing with another girl or chatting another girl up, then she'll either do two things.

Get jealous that ur talking to another girl and try to win you back.

OR

Crack the ****s at you and say that she doesn't wanna spend time with you nemore.

If she cracks it at you, then ur better off neway, if she gets jealous, then hey, what can you say, ur've got her in the bag again.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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