"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i recently got with this girl at my school shes about an hb7 shes coo and everything but she always out with her friends and stuff while im at summer school and football practice...there have been situations where she choses to go out with them for the night over going out with me....should i let this go on or should i stop this behaivor and if so how
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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titan27 said:
i recently got with this girl at my school shes about an hb7 shes coo and everything but she always out with her friends and stuff while im at summer school and football practice...there have been situations where she choses to go out with them for the night over going out with me....should i let this go on or should i stop this behaivor and if so how
Well, I wouldn't say that there is anything wrong with her wanting to go out, per se, but... it wouldn't surprise me that much if she's either losing interest in you, or cheating when you're not around. It seems like she doesn't value time around you that much, which isn't a good thing.

As for stopping this... you can't. If she decides that she'd rather go out than be with you, you're already not all that important to her, so threatening to walk away probably won't solve much of anything.
 

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Just because she likes going out with her girls doesn't mean she doesn't like you. Some girls do value their friends very highly, and hate breaking plans with them. Another thing to note is you just got with this girl. Nothing else. It takes a little more than that to keep a girl wanting to see you more.
 

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Ah, I've been through this again and again. There are a lot of ways to look at this. You can't get upset every time she goes out with her friends. I mean, you want to be with your friends too, so why not let her do the same? You guys don't seem like you're dating exclusively, so I wouldn't be too worried about it. While I was in high school, I've always kept the mentality to give the girl something that she doesn't normally get on a daily basis. Make her feel special around you and she'll always want to be around. This may seem kind of vague but this is the best advice you could have gotten for this situation.
 

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If u's arn't dating, then theres a simple solution,

If she wants to go out with friends, then theres no stopping you going out and having fun neway. Go out meet some new girls, if she sees you dancing with another girl or chatting another girl up, then she'll either do two things.

Get jealous that ur talking to another girl and try to win you back.

OR

Crack the ****s at you and say that she doesn't wanna spend time with you nemore.

If she cracks it at you, then ur better off neway, if she gets jealous, then hey, what can you say, ur've got her in the bag again.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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