Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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party at my place -advice needed

MinDFreeZ

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Hey guys, you seem to be helping greatly... maybe you can help me out.... I usually wouldn't ask, but I'm at work so I might as well find something to do...

Ok heres the situation... my 2 good friends are leaving for the Air Force for 8 years.. they leave monday, and today is friday... we're having a going away party tomorrow night at my apartment.. I probably will know about half the people there... but for the ones I don't know, I want to keep them entertained.... having fun, you kno. Any tips on what to do for the party?

I haven't decided on what I'm going to wear, but I have a feeling I'm breaking out the striped socks from when I was a Mime for halloween :p

any games, ideas, etc.. for a party?
(remember this is an apartment... it's on the second floor, so it cant be too loud like jumping for some reason)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A lot of the parties that I've thrown involved a game of beer pong, and it's something people who don't know everyone usually gravitate to first. It's a team thing and helps get the socializing going. Just one idea.
 

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I have seen beer pong in action. Good game.. but it can get kinda loud with people jumping around. At least the version i witness.

Im not a big party guy. But its always good to keep people interested, once the cellphone rings with another party option, and its snoozeville, you may just end up with only the most loyal of friends left over from a lame party.

I would say, set up a table for drinking games. Gets some cards. Stock up on beer and booze. Buy some stuff for mixed drinks "for the hot ladies" Maybe get a beer bong. Throw in a funny movie, or an action movie, something that people can look at, but not necessarily care to pay attention to. Its a party after all!

If you have an X box.. use it. I know it may sound lame. But many people just have fun messing around. Play some sports games. It can keep people entertained. Got a computer, mp3 player.. speaker system.. set up a playlist and play some songs. Take requests. Maybe it cant be loud, but you need to keep people entertained.

Make sure to keep the digital camera ready. Start good conversations, keep the party moving. And dont run out of beeer!
 

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haha, thanks for the replies guys.
got most of that covered... the beer pong idea might not work well since I dont have a table long or big enough, and not enough room... but ill try to figure something out..... we're gonna have the laptop hooked up to the tv with music videos playing on it.. cant have the music too loud, but the tv speakers are just right......

im thinking twister... or something.... i have a dart board, but that could get dangerous! :p

thanks for the replies though, these things will come in handy.
 

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about drinks...Bacardi's flavored rums are the best for chiicks. Bacardi O, Coco, Apple, etc...

Budlight for the men.

Try and get a tv going on with a good movie that everyone knows, and get a drinking card game going on. This is great for breaking the ice.

Also, let everyone know you're the host. you'll get laid :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i've held a ton of sucsessful parties at college. Its pretty simple to pull if off.

Games: Bieruit, card games, drinking games. This provides entertainment for the groups unsure if they want to break their social circle. You will have 2-3 biug groups of people, you want them to mix. Several games will allow this to happen.

music: gotta have the girls dancing. Music lets the party flow. dont be afraid to put on classics that everyone can sing to later on in the night. truly a bonding moment

Multiple rooms: You want several rooms so people have to move around to be social. Also having slightly more quiet rooms allows for any sort of closing on chicks ;)

lastly, have some stuff stocked away so you can provide with some alcohol. We have a ton of crap we dont like, fruity stuff. chicks love this stuff. however, dont give it out freely to everyone, kinda keep it around for the more privlaged people. personally, I hook up friends if they need.

Enjoy hosting a party, it was the best fun I ever had in college, and the only time I really ever did well with chicks. Pretty lame huh.

edit: pick a fun theme where women are scantily dressed !!! the more engaged people are, the less likely they pick up and go. Our last party of the semester last year ended in 3 hot freshmen girls playing strip poker and being practically naked.
 
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