Hi
Last November I found 10 empty packs of cigarettes in my partners coat pocket in wardrobe, I was totally shocked when I found out and confronted my partner, she denied it at first then admitted she had been smoking for last 1.5 years saying her granddad death and my being miserable has made her do it .... when we first got together she smokes but stopped when becoming pregnant 8 years ago , I didn't she think she would ever go back to if even tho her friends always smoke when she goes out .... I used to ask her why she smelled of smoke and she blamed her friends who smoked in the car for the smell etc. For the last 7 months I have found trusting her so so so hard , every time she goes out I wonder if she is smoking ... she tells me that she isn't and I have told her that if I find out now that she is then I will leaver her as I have given her the chance to come clean to me bit she has continued to tell me that she stopped ...i found myself going through he bag finding lighters hidden in socks in her bag which she says ain't her and she goes mental at me for checking up on her .... this is really tearing me up I need to get over it in order to move on for my two kids so they can have a happy family life ..
Do you think I am in the wrong ??? I need to let go on checking up on her and if I stumble across on her smoking I will need to deal with it then .... sorry for long message feels like I need to vent off...
Last November I found 10 empty packs of cigarettes in my partners coat pocket in wardrobe, I was totally shocked when I found out and confronted my partner, she denied it at first then admitted she had been smoking for last 1.5 years saying her granddad death and my being miserable has made her do it .... when we first got together she smokes but stopped when becoming pregnant 8 years ago , I didn't she think she would ever go back to if even tho her friends always smoke when she goes out .... I used to ask her why she smelled of smoke and she blamed her friends who smoked in the car for the smell etc. For the last 7 months I have found trusting her so so so hard , every time she goes out I wonder if she is smoking ... she tells me that she isn't and I have told her that if I find out now that she is then I will leaver her as I have given her the chance to come clean to me bit she has continued to tell me that she stopped ...i found myself going through he bag finding lighters hidden in socks in her bag which she says ain't her and she goes mental at me for checking up on her .... this is really tearing me up I need to get over it in order to move on for my two kids so they can have a happy family life ..
Do you think I am in the wrong ??? I need to let go on checking up on her and if I stumble across on her smoking I will need to deal with it then .... sorry for long message feels like I need to vent off...