So, after my girlfriend gagged on the carpet and it was cleaned up, we started to leave. Both his roommates came up to me and gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek. They said to me in front of the guy that I liked, that I was good with them, and that they liked me and hoped to see me again. The guy I liked walked me and my friend to the car. My friend was still acting stupid and I say bye to him and was about to open my side of the door, when he grabbed me around the waist and pulled me in for a long kiss. Then we went off to front of the car, so we could keep an eye on my friend, who was talking to herself, and he said that he would call me over the weekend to see if I was free on Sunday, which was the Sept. 11th. He told me he had a good time, despite my friend. He said again, how much he liked me and that this Sunday, we would be alone.....which is something we have not been able to do. Now, note, I said he mentioned about "getting" together on Sunday....so these were tentative plans, nothing was set in stone. Please take note of this, when analyzing all of this. Then we kissed some more, and I went home.
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We got home and I let my friend have it. I told her how much she truly embarrassed me and herself in front of everyone. She told me to get over it., I said for her that she has no idea how ridiculous she looked that evening and that she made a bad impression on everyone. I told her half-azzed apology was of no help. I told her it was very rude how she yelled at his roommate after he found about the record deal and you turn around an cut him to pieces. I also told her, if I never here from this guy because you, I would never be able to forgive her for this. I said you are my friend, but tonight, you showed ur true colors. I told her I have seen u acted this in the past, but never when there some guy I liked was involved. I told how much she made me upset and I was trying to cover her tracks. She told me she was sorry...(yeah..okay)...and she said if he never calls me again,.......then he is a real jerk. She said it would be messed on his part if he does not talk with me anymore because of her (which is right) because I was innocent. She also said that he was very cheap that he did not offer to buy us a drink. I told her get off the guy's always having to buy a drink thing. I told her that was not the issue here. I told her behaviour was rude, embarrassing and out of control. I said, has it ever occurred to you, that people tend to view other people by the what types of freinds you hang with. She ignored that question.
My aunt always told me to hang out around people who brought out the best in me and to be surrounded my positive people and not people who are always negative and have no lives. I think she is right.
My friend just laughed at me...and told me to get over it. She ended up passing out. I went to bed......pondering those thoughts.....WILL I EVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN????
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The Weekend and Aftermath:
So......Friday afternoon, after things got back to normal, my friend said she was sorry. She said if she sees them again....she will tell them how bad she feels and that she never meant to get that out-of-hand. I told her honestly, I think they will never let me have you come over anytime soon., She said, if this guy truly likes me, he will get a hold of me, and if he does not, and if I were to find out it was because of her, then he is not worth it. Then she said he was a coward. She said only cowards hide in the closet. She said do you really want that in a realationship or friendship, no matter what level it is? She said, she really does not think it has to do with her, but he that maybe he is playing me. She said, has it ever occured to me that maybe he is seeing a few girls at the same time. Maybe he has a girlfriend and has not been completely upfront. I told her, to my best of my knowledge, that he is single and he gave me no reason otherwise to not think so. She said, keep that mind. She said give him a call at lunch time.
I did. I called to say hi and to make sure he got to work on time. I told him I had great time last night and that I LOOKED "forward" to this Sunday, if we he was free. Well....Sunday came and went. I had to run the city for business for work, and I only called 2 times on Sunday, which was the 11th. I called the first time on my way into the city on the bus, this was at 12:00 pm....to tell him I would be back around 4 pm and to get a hold of me to let me know what was going on. I ended coming home at 6:30pm. The second time I called was at 5:15pm.....being that I did not get any messages from him, saying I was on my way home and was wondering if something came up and to let me know, and maybe we could do something later in the week. NOTICE ......I never once said, "hey, we had plans"...what is going on"....I was careful in voicing my words. I never called after that. Today is Tuesday, Sept. 13th.
I can honestly tell you I am a bit disappointed and sad. But I am confused because I do not understand who, what, where, when and why? I feel that I was made a fool of, not only by friend who embarrassed everyone and herself and me, but by the guy I like. I honestly believed with all my heart and based on what I knew about him, that he was the kind of person, that would of least called me back if something came up. I am not an angry person nor do I get jeolous. I do not like being kept in the dark. I rather for someone to be upfront with me and tell me the truth, good or bad..............so, I am a bit surprised....that he did not neither.......
I am personally giving it till the end of the week. If I do not hear from him, I will call one last time in the eveing....say, like this Thursday, Sept. 15th. I will call in the evening, when I think he will be home right before he goes to bed. If he answers, great if we can talk. If he does not pick up the phone, I will leave my last message. If after that, nothing happens, I know he was not worth my time. At least, I will have prepared myself to cushion the blow a bit. I know I am a sensitive person. Is is alright to go about in this manner? I am not into chasing people.
Another thing.........for the first time in a long time......I am feeling that '"pang" of disappointment in my heart. I feel like I did something but I know I did not. I feel like "why is this happening to me, again",,,,,,I played by the rules, I did not over call nor over step any boundaries...that I am aware of....so here are my questions:
Questions:
1. Could this guy be playing me for the fool?
2. Could this guy be avoiding me or blowing me off, based on the actions of my friends's rude behavior?
3. Did he lose interest for some other reason, that I am completely unaware of?
4. Is he playing hard to get?
5. Did I do something wrong?
6. Could it be, he and his roommates told me one thing, but when I left, they got a chance to conversed, and saw how my friend acted, and maybe his roommates think all my friends act like this, and out of respect for them, since he has to live with them, that he avoiding me because of them?
7. Do you think he will call me again?
8. Last but not least, am I being PARANOID over nothing????
Any help or advice would be much appreciated. I do like this guy. I know he is not my lover or boyfriend. I know we are still in the acquaintance stage. I am aware of all this. I just feel sorta empty...I meet someone good and something good happens for me, then something comes along and takes it away, out of my control.........so yeah....it does hurt a bit...............
Thanks, Everyone!
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We got home and I let my friend have it. I told her how much she truly embarrassed me and herself in front of everyone. She told me to get over it., I said for her that she has no idea how ridiculous she looked that evening and that she made a bad impression on everyone. I told her half-azzed apology was of no help. I told her it was very rude how she yelled at his roommate after he found about the record deal and you turn around an cut him to pieces. I also told her, if I never here from this guy because you, I would never be able to forgive her for this. I said you are my friend, but tonight, you showed ur true colors. I told her I have seen u acted this in the past, but never when there some guy I liked was involved. I told how much she made me upset and I was trying to cover her tracks. She told me she was sorry...(yeah..okay)...and she said if he never calls me again,.......then he is a real jerk. She said it would be messed on his part if he does not talk with me anymore because of her (which is right) because I was innocent. She also said that he was very cheap that he did not offer to buy us a drink. I told her get off the guy's always having to buy a drink thing. I told her that was not the issue here. I told her behaviour was rude, embarrassing and out of control. I said, has it ever occurred to you, that people tend to view other people by the what types of freinds you hang with. She ignored that question.
My aunt always told me to hang out around people who brought out the best in me and to be surrounded my positive people and not people who are always negative and have no lives. I think she is right.
My friend just laughed at me...and told me to get over it. She ended up passing out. I went to bed......pondering those thoughts.....WILL I EVER HEAR FROM HIM AGAIN????
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The Weekend and Aftermath:
So......Friday afternoon, after things got back to normal, my friend said she was sorry. She said if she sees them again....she will tell them how bad she feels and that she never meant to get that out-of-hand. I told her honestly, I think they will never let me have you come over anytime soon., She said, if this guy truly likes me, he will get a hold of me, and if he does not, and if I were to find out it was because of her, then he is not worth it. Then she said he was a coward. She said only cowards hide in the closet. She said do you really want that in a realationship or friendship, no matter what level it is? She said, she really does not think it has to do with her, but he that maybe he is playing me. She said, has it ever occured to me that maybe he is seeing a few girls at the same time. Maybe he has a girlfriend and has not been completely upfront. I told her, to my best of my knowledge, that he is single and he gave me no reason otherwise to not think so. She said, keep that mind. She said give him a call at lunch time.
I did. I called to say hi and to make sure he got to work on time. I told him I had great time last night and that I LOOKED "forward" to this Sunday, if we he was free. Well....Sunday came and went. I had to run the city for business for work, and I only called 2 times on Sunday, which was the 11th. I called the first time on my way into the city on the bus, this was at 12:00 pm....to tell him I would be back around 4 pm and to get a hold of me to let me know what was going on. I ended coming home at 6:30pm. The second time I called was at 5:15pm.....being that I did not get any messages from him, saying I was on my way home and was wondering if something came up and to let me know, and maybe we could do something later in the week. NOTICE ......I never once said, "hey, we had plans"...what is going on"....I was careful in voicing my words. I never called after that. Today is Tuesday, Sept. 13th.
I can honestly tell you I am a bit disappointed and sad. But I am confused because I do not understand who, what, where, when and why? I feel that I was made a fool of, not only by friend who embarrassed everyone and herself and me, but by the guy I like. I honestly believed with all my heart and based on what I knew about him, that he was the kind of person, that would of least called me back if something came up. I am not an angry person nor do I get jeolous. I do not like being kept in the dark. I rather for someone to be upfront with me and tell me the truth, good or bad..............so, I am a bit surprised....that he did not neither.......
I am personally giving it till the end of the week. If I do not hear from him, I will call one last time in the eveing....say, like this Thursday, Sept. 15th. I will call in the evening, when I think he will be home right before he goes to bed. If he answers, great if we can talk. If he does not pick up the phone, I will leave my last message. If after that, nothing happens, I know he was not worth my time. At least, I will have prepared myself to cushion the blow a bit. I know I am a sensitive person. Is is alright to go about in this manner? I am not into chasing people.
Another thing.........for the first time in a long time......I am feeling that '"pang" of disappointment in my heart. I feel like I did something but I know I did not. I feel like "why is this happening to me, again",,,,,,I played by the rules, I did not over call nor over step any boundaries...that I am aware of....so here are my questions:
Questions:
1. Could this guy be playing me for the fool?
2. Could this guy be avoiding me or blowing me off, based on the actions of my friends's rude behavior?
3. Did he lose interest for some other reason, that I am completely unaware of?
4. Is he playing hard to get?
5. Did I do something wrong?
6. Could it be, he and his roommates told me one thing, but when I left, they got a chance to conversed, and saw how my friend acted, and maybe his roommates think all my friends act like this, and out of respect for them, since he has to live with them, that he avoiding me because of them?
7. Do you think he will call me again?
8. Last but not least, am I being PARANOID over nothing????
Any help or advice would be much appreciated. I do like this guy. I know he is not my lover or boyfriend. I know we are still in the acquaintance stage. I am aware of all this. I just feel sorta empty...I meet someone good and something good happens for me, then something comes along and takes it away, out of my control.........so yeah....it does hurt a bit...............
Thanks, Everyone!
