"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Parking lot close, what now??

chancesz

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Hi guys

Some advice please. I don't really have too much trouble being c&f around women, and in my experience this attitude is key to creating rapport and sexual tension. Since breaking up with my long term g/f, i have discovered David D's material and, subsequently this site, and am making a serious attempt to play by these "new" rules.
I haven't often been able to approach women i see using 3s rule etc, and am more used to meeting women in traditional places like my gym, through friends etc. As I said i have been c&f my entire life, but only in the last couple of years have i realised that my dry sense of humour can be defined in this way.
My question
Today while I was leaving a shopping mall, i saw this major babe (about 8) walking next to me towards her car. I was going to do my usual thing in these situations( ie. nothing!!!) , but she smiled at me, before getting in her car, so i turned around, walked up to her window, and started speaking to her. I was really nervous, though, so my c&f routine was virtually non-existent. But I asked her for her number and she gave it to me.
My dilemma is this. When I phone her, what should i say. i haven't really created any rapport with her, and this is going to be difficult over the phone. Any advice. PLEASE.
cheers
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Slickster

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You should call her soon. The sooner the better. Less chance for you to become part of her distant memory. Which is likely considering your brief encounter.

Keep the conversation short and sweet and tell her you would like to meet her for coffee or a drink soon. Tell her there was something about her eyes or smile that intrigued you and you'd really like to meet her again.

This should give you a chance to work your ****y and funny.
 

DeathDealer

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there is no need to create rapport or whatever trickery to get a date with a woman. she's either open to it or not.

sexual tension establishes that you are a sexual person.

****y and funny establishes you are a fun/funny person.

that's all. the important thing is that there are guys that do one or none of those things and still get the girl.
 
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