I have stumbled upon a weird phenomenon regarding people I have known the past few years. My question, as the post title says, is if I am just being paranoid, or if there is more to this strange happening. Some examples:
-- 3 years ago. My sophomore year of college. I got to know a few guys living on my floor in the dorm. Early in the year, there was a cute HB I had a class with. She was initially cool, but then turned into a snob like the rest of her friends. At the time, my dorm friends - who had met this clique at a party they were at - also thought they were snobby and one of them told off one of the girls. At the end of the year, I moved to another part of campus, the other guys stayed there. What happened? Almost immediately, the other guys and the group of girls became bff's. All of them. The moment I leave, everything changed.
-- 1 1/2 years ago. I was working an internship for the summer. There was a girl who started a little later than me. We initially got along fine, but then she began trying to lead me on. I saw it and didn't take well to it. The other interns (about 10 of us, guys and girls) thought she was "dumb" and was fortunate to even be at the company. One day, I was off on another errand. I come back, and the other interns are now all very tight with this other girl. One night at a bar, she tried to rub it in my face in regard to some of the other guy interns (heavy flirting), I left before I did anything I'd regret.
-- Under a year ago, before I graduated college. I became friends with a guy through a very close friend of mine. We all hung out together for awhile. I also met two girls in my apartment complex, who seemed nice enough even if they were teases. Somehow, this guy and one of the girls met in a class and I came up in the conversation?
How? Neither of them would know that I knew the other person. Anyway, the guy and the two girls soon became good friends. They'd hang out (with other people) when my close friend and I weren't around. For what it's worth, the girls don't know my close friend, but they did know me.
--Throughout some of my college classes, there were some people I did not have the warmest relationship with, leading to a little competitive nature in regards to doing well. In these classes, the people who decided I was the enemy...all banded together! It's not like I was getting straight A's or was the top student in the class (I was above-average). It was the strangest thing. Maybe I did better on an assignment than one guy, while I beat a girl in the class to a certain story. The next week, the two would be instant friends. It's like magnets to a pole.
As you can see, the concerning theme is this: I know two groups of people. One of the groups I get along with (but aren't especially close to), the other there is some tension. OR, I don't have the best relationship with both parties. The moment I leave or go elsewhere, the two groups not only magically find each other (I didn't introduce them), but also become great friends. My obvious question...is this just a series of coincidences, or is there more to this? Am I an unintentional barrier between two groups of people? It's really weird. To be clear, it's the trend I am concerned about, not the actual people involved.
-- 3 years ago. My sophomore year of college. I got to know a few guys living on my floor in the dorm. Early in the year, there was a cute HB I had a class with. She was initially cool, but then turned into a snob like the rest of her friends. At the time, my dorm friends - who had met this clique at a party they were at - also thought they were snobby and one of them told off one of the girls. At the end of the year, I moved to another part of campus, the other guys stayed there. What happened? Almost immediately, the other guys and the group of girls became bff's. All of them. The moment I leave, everything changed.
-- 1 1/2 years ago. I was working an internship for the summer. There was a girl who started a little later than me. We initially got along fine, but then she began trying to lead me on. I saw it and didn't take well to it. The other interns (about 10 of us, guys and girls) thought she was "dumb" and was fortunate to even be at the company. One day, I was off on another errand. I come back, and the other interns are now all very tight with this other girl. One night at a bar, she tried to rub it in my face in regard to some of the other guy interns (heavy flirting), I left before I did anything I'd regret.
-- Under a year ago, before I graduated college. I became friends with a guy through a very close friend of mine. We all hung out together for awhile. I also met two girls in my apartment complex, who seemed nice enough even if they were teases. Somehow, this guy and one of the girls met in a class and I came up in the conversation?
How? Neither of them would know that I knew the other person. Anyway, the guy and the two girls soon became good friends. They'd hang out (with other people) when my close friend and I weren't around. For what it's worth, the girls don't know my close friend, but they did know me.--Throughout some of my college classes, there were some people I did not have the warmest relationship with, leading to a little competitive nature in regards to doing well. In these classes, the people who decided I was the enemy...all banded together! It's not like I was getting straight A's or was the top student in the class (I was above-average). It was the strangest thing. Maybe I did better on an assignment than one guy, while I beat a girl in the class to a certain story. The next week, the two would be instant friends. It's like magnets to a pole.
As you can see, the concerning theme is this: I know two groups of people. One of the groups I get along with (but aren't especially close to), the other there is some tension. OR, I don't have the best relationship with both parties. The moment I leave or go elsewhere, the two groups not only magically find each other (I didn't introduce them), but also become great friends. My obvious question...is this just a series of coincidences, or is there more to this? Am I an unintentional barrier between two groups of people? It's really weird. To be clear, it's the trend I am concerned about, not the actual people involved.