"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're not gonna answer me in anything else forum, then answer me here.

Why did you delete my post?

i will quote from it:

"Before this thread gets closed cause of political posts i'll squeeze in this:" After that sentence i commented on the article.


Allen, i know there's been a lot of talk about mods on these boards,but this many people can't all be wrong. I liked and came to these forums for 2 years, but lately i dont even want to waste time to post anything, because it might get deleted for no reason(see an above example).
I can handle no posts about politics,religion,race etc...but this latest group of mods dont even read what they are about to delete.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Could you perhaps enclose a link to the thread it is you're referring to? I've searched your posts, and while you've participated in 2 threads in the past half year, with an average post frequency of one post per two months (excluding this one post in this one thread), I can't find a single topic that you've discussed that was closed, recently or otherwise.
 

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Originally posted by diablo
Could you perhaps enclose a link to the thread it is you're referring to? I've searched your posts, and while you've participated in 2 threads in the past half year, with an average post frequency of one post per two months (excluding this one post in this one thread), I can't find a single topic that you've discussed that was closed, recently or otherwise.
I believe it was deleted and he is asking why.

I just have 2 questions Mafia:

1. Why not PM Paradox?

2. If you knew it was gonna get closed, why bother adding to it?
 

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=65288

It was first closed, then opened and all political replies deleted,along with mine for some reason.Then i made a new post in that thread asking who deleted it and also implied that he was an as$hole for doing so(i know, not too mature but i spent 20 minutes reading that article and writing a reply to it so he can just delete it), that post got cut too.
I doubt PMing will work since he will just delete that. Thankfully he cant do that in this forum and i really would like an explanation.
 

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Originally posted by ReD MaFiA http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=65288

It was first closed, then opened and all political replies deleted,along with mine for some reason.
Well, if it was in response to one of the replies that was dealing with politics, then of course it would have been deleted. An example:

First post: Guns are bad
Second Post: US House Bill #982 Sec 2 Art 4 is inflamatory and shouldn't be allowed in a free society!
Third post: Yes, but what about Ralph Nader becoming dictator?
Your post: Ralph Nader has grey hair!

I don't know what you said, because as you say it was deleted, but if your post had to do with what someone who was already off-topic was saying, then don't get upset if it was deleted.

Then i made a new post in that thread asking who deleted it and also implied that he was an as$hole for doing so(i know, not too mature but i spent 20 minutes reading that article and writing a reply to it so he can just delete it), that post got cut too.
Should the post have been left up? It had nothing to do with the thread; all you were doing was complaining that your post got deleted along with anyone else who was off topic... and that the mod was an jerk for doing his job. I wonder why it was deleted... :rolleyes:

I doubt PMing will work since he will just delete that. Thankfully he cant do that in this forum and i really would like an explanation.
If I was him, I wouldn't even offer an explanation. You got mad that a post of yours was deleted with a bunch of other posts. Then, you got even more upset because your off-topic post about him being a jerk and asking why the original post was deleted was removed. Now you're in here upset because a post about post about a post was deleted. Or was it a post about a post? Irrelevant. If your post wasn't political, why not just take 5 minute and re-write it? After all, you're spending more time in here complaining about it than it would take to re-create something you've already written...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Let's act grown up

Red,


I really don't remember what your post said. I read every post in that thread. I think that there were about 18 posts about 6 of them were about Bush, Kerry or both. I did delete all of the Bush/Kerry discussions from the post.

As far as your flamebaiting goes I probably deleted that also. I'm not here to fight with you. I am here to help.

Take a deep breath. Think, and then repost to the thread if you want to. If it was not political then feel free to repost it.
 
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I read the thread and the post in question. Red is actually correct, his post was not political. However, his preface that he was going to sneak his post in before the thread got closed for being political made me initially think that his post would be political also.

VERDICT:
Post not political.
Probably shouldn't have been deleted.
VERY easy to see why it was.
It was an accident and accidents happen to all of us.
 

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Gio,

Red's post was deleted. What he wrote above is not his original post.

Red is accusing us of not reading the posts. Gio read Red's post again and again until you understand it.
 

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Originally posted by Paradox
Gio,

Red's post was deleted. What he wrote above is not his original post.

Red is accusing us of not reading the posts. Gio read Red's post again and again until you understand it.
I know. I read the post that was deleted from that thread. I do remember what it said. I totally can see why you deleted it because it started out sounding like it would be political, but it wasn't. That's all.
 

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I know. I read the post that was deleted from that thread. I do remember what it said. I totally can see why you deleted it because it started out sounding like it would be political, but it wasn't. That's all.
Guess I owe you an apology Red AND Gio. Chalk it up to human error.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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