Painful oneitis with gf of 3.5 years.

[CharlieLuciano]

Hello guys. So I've had this girlfriend for 3.5 years and for the last year or so I've had oneitis for her. She was everything I wanted in a girl. However, I am in uni in the UK and she just moved for uni in the US. As soon as she got her offer to study there, she became more emotionally detached and stopped being sweet and caring. There have been a few times she was back to her old self, but when she moved to the US, it's almost like I stopped existing for her.

I think I might've become less attractive to her due contracting oneitis. Is there a way of getting her back to the state she was in before? I've tried stopping contact for days at a time, but it barely makes her give me attention. I've been working out more and ****. And thing is I can't just next her because I am in the UK and most girls here are ugly and/or slutty. There are like 5% which are OK for hooking up, which means that like 0.5% or less are good for a relationship (and I can't cure my oneitis unless I get at least a casual relationship).

 

[logicallefty]

OP, for guys like you with one-itis I might suggest online dating to take your mind off of it. Why online? I don't know what the online scene is in your country. Here in the USA, it's hit and miss, usually a lot more miss than hit, but not always. Online allows you more contacts and thus more hookups in a shorter amount of time.. Back when I had one its I would find that going out with any woman would help take the edge off. Just go out and have some fun with low expectations, and you won't be let down. Or to put it another way, adopt my "Think of women as beer" mindset, discussed here..

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221281

If ya meet someone who is more than that, great, just don't expect it.. Make your goal to talk to as many women as possible and go out on 1 date each. It's all about managing your expectations and not shooting for the moon in a quick 3-4 hour flight. Good luck man.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Hello guys. So I've had this girlfriend for 3.5 years and for the last year or so I've had oneitis for her. She was everything I wanted in a girl. However, I am in uni in the UK and she just moved for uni in the US. As soon as she got her offer to study there, she became more emotionally detached and stopped being sweet and caring. There have been a few times she was back to her old self, but when she moved to the US, it's almost like I stopped existing for her.

I think I might've become less attractive to her due contracting oneitis. Is there a way of getting her back to the state she was in before? I've tried stopping contact for days at a time, but it barely makes her give me attention. I've been working out more and ****. And thing is I can't just next her because I am in the UK and most girls here are ugly and/or slutty. There are like 5% which are OK for hooking up, which means that like 0.5% or less are good for a relationship (and I can't cure my oneitis unless I get at least a casual relationship).

What are we talking about here ?
Do you think the reason why she got emotionally detached even matters ?
Do you expect her to waste her youth and prime holding out for some d!ck on the other side of the ocean ?
Are you ready to sacrifice your youth and prime waiting for some pvssy on the other side of the ocean, for 4 years ?!
Lost cause. Move on.

 

[Yewki]

I think I might've become less attractive to her due contracting oneitis.

The reason why you became less appealing to her is because you're on the other side of the planet. I know you were with her for 3.5 years, and that's a long time, but you need to move on with your life... you must have suspected this was going to happen, right? Maybe when (if?) she returns to the UK you can reconnect but until then it's game over.

 

[WorkHardPlayHard]

It's a wrap. Once she is no longer emotionally invested, you must - MUST - do the same. Curing oneitis hurts, especially after a girl you dated that long. Go totally no contact, strart talking to new girls. It'll expedite the curing process. She'll just be one of many girls you date in your life - remember that. If she reaches out to you, be cool and pleasantly disinterested, tell her about all the great **** going on. No way to make it work long distance.