Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
roflOriginally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Just so everyone knows... this is OXYTOCIN, not OXYCOTIN.
Do not give your dates hillbilly heroin.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I've known about it for approximately one year and I cannot say its knowledge has enhanced learning anything beyond emphasizing the power of kino, even in non-romantic contexts. It does, I think, put matters into a new perspective when you think about how touch affects you when someone touches you; it calms me down. I don't know what the article because it seems to have since gone down, but the peril of oxytocin is its effects wear off after about three or four years, if I remember correctly. Four years happens to be the magical number for most non-marital relationships to end and I don't think it's a coincidence.Alpine said:Does knowing this biochemistry help extend what you learn from actually touching and noting the reaction?