overly shy girl

[Egocontrol]

I have been on a couple of dates with an overly shy girl. i have already kissed her, but last night, i was saying goodbye to her, she gave me a hug, and lingered for a long time, i tried to kiss her, but she didnt react at all. So i said to her ok cool, well im going, i walked to my car door, and said this is your last chance, if you want to kiss me you better do it now, well, she stood there for a minute and walked over to me so i tried to kiss her again and she did the same thing. i just up and left after that, thinking nothing of it i get home, and she ims me out of the blue with "goodnight " is this girl just incredibly shy, or uninterested?

 

[diablo]

She's shy or she wouldn't have walked over to begin with, nor would she have sent you a text message after the fact.

 

[Egocontrol]

So what do you suggest i do. Do i be overly aggressive and force the kiss? or how do i handle her?

 

[Egocontrol]

basically also what im wondering is if i should pull away attention from her and make her come to me. The only problem is im afraid shes too shy to make a move. what do you do with this type of girl?

 

[lebRambo]

hmm...thats a tough one. I would talk to her about her shyness. If you press her a little about it, she might start to open up and tell you that she likes you and is just shy so she needs time, blah, blah.

from there, it is up to you to decide whether or not she is worth the hassle.

 

[JazzPimpNYC]

I TOTALLY agree with Rambo. There is no guarantee that she will ever come out of her shell regardless of how hard you try. You may just be wasting your time. You need to sit down and think hard about this. Do you want to spend a month trying to open her up? A few months? A year? More? Unless you're willing to put this kind of effort in, you should start dating some other girls.

 

[MicCheck1-2]

No, she is stuck up. Call her and tell her that the next time you ask for a kiss and she declines, tell her that you couldn't see each other no more.

 

[Dergz]

my present chick pulled that sht on me on our first date, and it pssed me off so much that i told her right there that if the relationship was to wrk she'll have to get rid of her shyness. another thing, try to sound sympathetic, tell her yu feel what she's feelin, try to make it look as if yu're in the same boat. girls like feeling like they not alone in a situation. if all else fails start ignoring her like yu did before she txt'd yu, it was her way of apologizing.

 

[Egocontrol]

Ok, so update. I saw her tonight, we have mutual friends, so we hung out and she waited for me to get back to our one friends house when everyone else left, we all talked for a few minutes and left, i walked out to my car with her, and just said if you wanna go out again, let me know, and i said goodbye, i didnt even give her a hug, i figure that would show that im willing to walk away, was that the right thing to do?

 

[Dergz]

hell yeah dude! yu need to show her that yu're not really that kinda lovey dovey pvssy guy. girls see it really necessary to be ignored sometimes, they are attracted to mystery men, so the more myterious yu appear or the more don't-give-a-fcuk person yu are, the more she be down for yo ass.