pyros
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I mean, because of the DJ stuff (being alpha, dont accepting shi-t from women etc...) I've had a couple of girls that turned me down at some point because I did not accept their little manipulations, drama, games, demands etc.
For example, I had one girl that stopped seing me basically because I did not pay attention to her everyday. She wanted me to contact her everyday, after a couple of dates. She texted me etc every other day, but I just replied, or texted her very little.
When she complained about this, I teased her a bit and made a few jokes, and I thought (following DJ principles) that I was being the prize, she was chasing which was good, and I did not want to change that. She said that I was too stucked-up.
However, she got tired of it (she wanted someone that showed more interest and affection) and stopped seing me. I thought about it and I realised that I should have increased the number of times I contacted her first because really, why not?? she wanted me to contact her more often, this was something she 'needed' to feel good, and feel the relationship was important for me, but I thought she was being silly and I thought that an 'alpha' male should be 'busy', be the prize etc and he should not bend.
But now that I thingk about it I think I just overgamed her, I took this DJ stuff too far and I ended up loosing the girl.
In antoher occasion with a different girl the same thing happened. She liked to create a bit of drama from time to time. I ignored her everytime, literally, everytime she did that, and she decided to not see me anymore because 'I did not care for her', you know?
Now I think that I should have listened to her a bit, listened to her little complains and drama, because if you accept 0% drama, games etc from women, they just send you to the curb cause you do not seem to care about them, or at least that's what they think.
The majority of guys from here are trained to not accept manipulations,games, drama, bad behaviour etc from women, which is fine, but the reality is that you end up going extreme. You become too harsh, cold and indiferent.
You see couples everyda in which if you pay attention you see the guy bending, or tolerating crap from his gf.
One thing is being a complete AFC which is bad, but in order to not become one of them, ppl here tend to go to the other extreme, which is not the proper way to find a meaningful relationship with a girl, because hey, if you accept zero shi-t from your girl, she will leave you sooner or later.
I dont think there is any relationship in which the guy never, ever, accepts sh-it (arriving late, denying sex, being bratty, creating drama...) from his girl.
Many ppl from here thinks they should treat their gf like they would a FWB, but that is totally counterproductive...
Even if you're dealing with a FWB, more often than not, these girls want you to treat them like a gf, or kind of, because if you do not, they leave because it makes them feel bad.
You understand my point? similar experiences? this is the sosuave syndrom as some poster wrote once.
For example, I had one girl that stopped seing me basically because I did not pay attention to her everyday. She wanted me to contact her everyday, after a couple of dates. She texted me etc every other day, but I just replied, or texted her very little.
When she complained about this, I teased her a bit and made a few jokes, and I thought (following DJ principles) that I was being the prize, she was chasing which was good, and I did not want to change that. She said that I was too stucked-up.
However, she got tired of it (she wanted someone that showed more interest and affection) and stopped seing me. I thought about it and I realised that I should have increased the number of times I contacted her first because really, why not?? she wanted me to contact her more often, this was something she 'needed' to feel good, and feel the relationship was important for me, but I thought she was being silly and I thought that an 'alpha' male should be 'busy', be the prize etc and he should not bend.
But now that I thingk about it I think I just overgamed her, I took this DJ stuff too far and I ended up loosing the girl.
In antoher occasion with a different girl the same thing happened. She liked to create a bit of drama from time to time. I ignored her everytime, literally, everytime she did that, and she decided to not see me anymore because 'I did not care for her', you know?
Now I think that I should have listened to her a bit, listened to her little complains and drama, because if you accept 0% drama, games etc from women, they just send you to the curb cause you do not seem to care about them, or at least that's what they think.
The majority of guys from here are trained to not accept manipulations,games, drama, bad behaviour etc from women, which is fine, but the reality is that you end up going extreme. You become too harsh, cold and indiferent.
You see couples everyda in which if you pay attention you see the guy bending, or tolerating crap from his gf.
One thing is being a complete AFC which is bad, but in order to not become one of them, ppl here tend to go to the other extreme, which is not the proper way to find a meaningful relationship with a girl, because hey, if you accept zero shi-t from your girl, she will leave you sooner or later.
I dont think there is any relationship in which the guy never, ever, accepts sh-it (arriving late, denying sex, being bratty, creating drama...) from his girl.
Many ppl from here thinks they should treat their gf like they would a FWB, but that is totally counterproductive...
Even if you're dealing with a FWB, more often than not, these girls want you to treat them like a gf, or kind of, because if you do not, they leave because it makes them feel bad.
You understand my point? similar experiences? this is the sosuave syndrom as some poster wrote once.