There is a myth that you can go from zero to MPUA in a matter of weeks with the right material. The fact is, it takes social calibration, and social clibration takes TIME. How did I start out? I asked myself a few questions and took action.
Look at your life, what have you done that was difficult and took time to learn? How did you achieve it? By getting stuck in and trying to do something, or by complaining?
When I first met an excellent wing, pied_piper I remember him coming to me with approach anxiety and looking, what I must say was quite scared. I winged him into a couple of sets and physically moved him into kino. I wish I could do this for everyone out there, because sometimes we all need that nudge over the line. piper is now a kino master/ninja!
What can a person reading this post do? Here are some things that worked for me.
- Get friends (game aware or not), to pick a sets that you HAVE to approach. With somebody stood behind you saying "GO ON!" You are much more likley to go into set
- Join a lair full of guys you can learn from. Joining CarpePM was one of the best decisions I ever made, and more recently meeting people like Fad3r and hopefully others in the not too distant future have helped and will continue to help me.
- Promise yourself you are going to approach. By the time you actually get in set and run an opener, you can reward yourself. You have done the hardest thing you will ever have to do in the game. The rest is much easier than this.
- Visualise the cool guy you are and will become in set. Imagine what it would look like to see you being really cool in set and everyone loving it. That is the reality very shortly. Get used to it, and work towards making it inevitible.
- Break through the shyness barrier. I have met many guys who are quiet and cannot be heard. Yet many of them have learned to project and use kino and do all the things we can do to get and keep a girls attention. Shout loudly to songs, bring out your loud side. It's there LET IT SHOW. Please don't hide it, you will be REWARDED for showing your social side. Thats why they call it society
- Dare to fail. ONLY THOSE WHO DARE TO DREAM will ever achieve them. You have to fail before you can succeed. Get used to it, get comfortable with it then GET OVER IT. I've seen harlequin blown out of a set (yes it actually happened, he's mortal!!) I've been blown out of countless sets, everyone who improves HAS BLOWN A SET.
This is your new mindset, digest it, read it five more times. Read it every morning, and at night before bed. Stick it to your head. You WILL succeed, but it WILL TAKE TIME!
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Why I think this myth exists...
I have a lot of friends who are not in the community but have come across Styles book and I have noticed a pattern. Everyone wants results today, without going into the field and putting the hard work in. I think as anyone can vouch it is hard work, and hard work alone that has gotten us to where we are as APUAs.
That got me thinking, why is this? The answer I kept coming back to was Low Self Esteem. Not only will low self esteem prevent someone from sarging, it causes people to lie to themselves and pretend they don't need to improve. I know a couple of guys who are with girls they are far from 100% happy with, yet they stick with them? They become validated by something they don't want and throw away their dominant frame. Its SAD TO SEE! It makes me want to shake them like a polaroid picture.
Look at your life, what have you done that was difficult and took time to learn? How did you achieve it? By getting stuck in and trying to do something, or by complaining?
When I first met an excellent wing, pied_piper I remember him coming to me with approach anxiety and looking, what I must say was quite scared. I winged him into a couple of sets and physically moved him into kino. I wish I could do this for everyone out there, because sometimes we all need that nudge over the line. piper is now a kino master/ninja!
What can a person reading this post do? Here are some things that worked for me.
- Get friends (game aware or not), to pick a sets that you HAVE to approach. With somebody stood behind you saying "GO ON!" You are much more likley to go into set
- Join a lair full of guys you can learn from. Joining CarpePM was one of the best decisions I ever made, and more recently meeting people like Fad3r and hopefully others in the not too distant future have helped and will continue to help me.
- Promise yourself you are going to approach. By the time you actually get in set and run an opener, you can reward yourself. You have done the hardest thing you will ever have to do in the game. The rest is much easier than this.
- Visualise the cool guy you are and will become in set. Imagine what it would look like to see you being really cool in set and everyone loving it. That is the reality very shortly. Get used to it, and work towards making it inevitible.
- Break through the shyness barrier. I have met many guys who are quiet and cannot be heard. Yet many of them have learned to project and use kino and do all the things we can do to get and keep a girls attention. Shout loudly to songs, bring out your loud side. It's there LET IT SHOW. Please don't hide it, you will be REWARDED for showing your social side. Thats why they call it society
- Dare to fail. ONLY THOSE WHO DARE TO DREAM will ever achieve them. You have to fail before you can succeed. Get used to it, get comfortable with it then GET OVER IT. I've seen harlequin blown out of a set (yes it actually happened, he's mortal!!) I've been blown out of countless sets, everyone who improves HAS BLOWN A SET.
This is your new mindset, digest it, read it five more times. Read it every morning, and at night before bed. Stick it to your head. You WILL succeed, but it WILL TAKE TIME!
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Why I think this myth exists...
I have a lot of friends who are not in the community but have come across Styles book and I have noticed a pattern. Everyone wants results today, without going into the field and putting the hard work in. I think as anyone can vouch it is hard work, and hard work alone that has gotten us to where we are as APUAs.
That got me thinking, why is this? The answer I kept coming back to was Low Self Esteem. Not only will low self esteem prevent someone from sarging, it causes people to lie to themselves and pretend they don't need to improve. I know a couple of guys who are with girls they are far from 100% happy with, yet they stick with them? They become validated by something they don't want and throw away their dominant frame. Its SAD TO SEE! It makes me want to shake them like a polaroid picture.
,plus i am broke!)